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JBAnonymous
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My boyfriend and I recently became sexually active together.

Long story short:

Last Wednesday (Dec 26) we fooled around, with no actual penetration or ejaculation but with genital-genital contact.
I began to panic, and took the morning after pill on the 27th just to be sure.
Two nights ago, (Jan 2, exactly one week after the prior encounter), the same thing happened. However, I keep a "period tracker" on my phone, and according to that I was ovulating.
Keep in mind there was no actual penetration, he peed multiple times prior to any contact (as far as precum skepticism goes), and did not ejaculate anywhere near me, much less my vagina.

Am I just worrying myself to death and there's no reason to fear? Should I take Plan B again?

Also, would Plan B affect my cycle to where I would not be ovulating at my typical time?

Thank you for your time.

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Heather
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Does that period tracker ask you for daily reports of cervical mucus and/or basal temperatures? If it doesn't, or it does, but you haven't charted and entered that data daily for at least a few months, it cannot accurately tell you when you may be ovulating. It simply can't.

Direct genital-to-genital contact DOES pose possible pregnancy and STI risks. And Plan B is one of the least effective methods of contraception out there in perfect use, and also one of the most expensive. So, for future reference, the best plan is not to engage in that kind of contact without a condom, and an additional method of contraception if you want extra pregnancy protection.

It's up to you whether or not you want to take Plan B again. If your partner basically used withdrawal perfectly -- as in, he did not ejaculate inside or unto your vagina, and stopped this activity well before he ejaculated, then chances are you won't become pregnant. In perfect use, withdrawal is estimated to be around 96% effective in one year of use. That doesn't cover STI risks, obviously, so if you and yours aren't current with your STI tests, you'll each want to do that in the next few months.

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No, it doesn't ask for anything in regards to cervical mucus or basal temperatures.

Would pre-ejaculate outside of my vagina become an issue, even if he did urinate prior to any contact?

Thank you so much for your time and for such a thorough answer.

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Heather
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So, it can't predict ovulation for you accurately, then. That given, I'd not worry about ovulation here, since who knows. I'd also not rely on it in the future to predict ovulation accurately. Just use it for your periods.

Like we make clear in all our material on the boards and the site, if and when there is DIRECT contact between penis and vagina, there is a possibility of pregnancy. When someone does not ejaculate, but there's only pre-ejaculate, we know that doesn't equal no risk, or else withdrawal would be 100% effective in perfect use, and we know it isn't. So, again, yes, there are still risks of pregnancy (and the fact that someone's penis is on the vulva versus inside the vagina isn't a difference I'd say likely makes much of a difference for people without any fertility issues) and, again, also STIs, which are just as prevalent, especially with people under 24, as unwanted pregnancies are.

Knowing all that, do you feel like you have a sense of how to move forward from here, including not taking risks of anything you don't want to risk, or reducing those risks in a more effective way?

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Yes I do, thank you for sharing all of that with me and I will most definitely become more prepared.
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Happy to help.

All good negotiating this with your partner, too?

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