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FBCH
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My boyfriend, his friend, my god sister, and I were hanging out a week ago. My god sister and I felt awkward bc we had the sense that my boyfriend's friend was staring and glance at us. We'd take quick glance in his direction then we'd look at each other and start random conversations. I mean I know it doesn't sound like a big deal but the way he would try to sneak peaks at us made thing extremely uncomfortable. He'd play with his phone then glance or stare out the corner of his eye. And another that happened was when we all headed to my boyfriend's car his friend almost bumped me but I stopped just in time, then he walked in front of me, turned his he and looked at me up and down. I'm not really good at reading signal, if it was a signal, I just want to know what could this mean?

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Robin Lee
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Hi FBCH and welcome to Scarleteen.

Regardless of what your boyfriend's friend meant by this (and no one can really know unless someone asks him) it sounds like it made you feel very uncomfortable. Again, whatever his intentions were, it's okay that you didn't like it.

What do you think you need to be able to figure this out and know what to do about it?

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FBCH
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I have no idea what to do. Now, he's flirting with my godsister and our best friend. My godsister fell for what he was doing but our best friend sees what I see. And his girlfriend knows NOTHING.

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Robin Lee
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Well, one of your options is to tell him that you don't like it. You can tell him what you observed in the way he treated you, tell him you interpret that as flirting, and that you don't like it and would he not do it anymore.

What do you think?

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I think that's a good idea. But, what do I do about him flirting with my best friend?

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I know it's tough to watch that, but it's really on your best friend to let him know if she's not okay with something.

You could talk to her and tell her how you feel about him flirting with her, and encourage her to speak up for herself if it's something she doesn't like, but ultimately it's her decision.

This guy sounds creepy and unpleasant, and I totally understand you wanting him to just stop it!

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