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Themacguy101
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my girlfriend and i have a healthy relationship and have chosen to wait for sex until later. we do mess around and the furtherest we have gone is oral, i have never came btw. anyways she has missed her period according to her, i believe her last one started april 27th and ended around may 2nd, and hasn't had one since then.(today being june 7th) she said her periods are usually 28 days in between starting...
I know she isn't pregnant because we have not had any genetile contact what so ever, but what could be the cause of her missing her period?

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Robin Lee
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There can be lots of reasons for the menstrual cycle to change, including stress, illness (even something mild like a cold), or just the unpredictability of the body.

If you and your girlfriend are concerned, you might find it helpful to read this article together.

M.I.A or, Dude, Where's My Period?

Having a period be late, or missed altogether, isn't something to be overly worried about when pregnancy is not a concern. [Smile]

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Themacguy101
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thank you for your help, except my girlfriend isn't convinced she's not pregnant. I'm 100% sure because we haven't even had our "stuff" out at the same time and she's been really stressed these past couple weeks due to finals and college apps. so i only have a couple more questions: is a lot stress a valid reason for her to miss her period? when can she expect her normal period, will it just go back to where it would've been or be thrown off? and how can i get her to relax and be as confident as i am?
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Robin Lee
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Hi,

Did you show her the article about late periods?

Stress can definitely delay a period. We have all sorts of hormones in our bodies and they can interact in different ways when stress alters the body chemistry.

There's really no telling whether she'll just skip this period and get the next one round about when she would expect to, or whether her period will just come at some random time.

How can you get her to relax and be as confident as you are? You can't. You can continue to be gentle and patient and listen to her concerns. You can ask her if she thinks that taking a pregnancy test will help alleviate her fears. YOu can, if she wants, help her get a test.

I'm also wondering if the two of you need to sit down and have some discussions about the kinds of sexual activities that are and aren't working for both of you. Often anxiety about pregnancy risks is about anxiety over sex, or over other things going on.

This article will give you some ideas on how to start a discussion like that.

Be a Blabbermouth! The Whats, Whys and Hows of Talking About Sex With a Partner

Overall, remember that while your girlfriend's anxieties and fears may not make sense to you, they make sense to her. SEe what I mean?

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