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we4ring
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Hi... I very confused, and get freak. a week ago I and my girl friend do something wrong,she touch my penis while I still wearing underpants, then she touch her clitoris, But I did not have my ejaculation at all. is there any chance she get pregnant? please answer me...
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Can you look at this first, please?

http://www.scarleteen.com/forum/ultimatebb.php?/ubb/get_topic/f/28/t/006958.html

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we4ring
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I found it from your link :
Were you only kissing, having oral sex, manual sex and/or dry sex, where everyone had clothes on and no one ejaculated on or very near anyone else's vulva? These kinds of sex do NOT present any pregnancy risks, though some can present risks of STIs.

my problem is she touch my erection penis through my pants ( I wearing boxer and underpants)the erection produce pre cum isn't it? but my boxer not wet when she rubbed my penis on it. then she touch and rubbed her clitoris, I am afraid that her hand contains some pre ejaculate...

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So, you had manual sex, and you were wearing clothing. According to that quote from the article, there is no pregnancy risk.

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hey all, I got something that opposite with atricle above. here the statement:
MYTH: Manual sex presents a high pregnancy risk if your hand may have touched pre-ejaculate or after wiping or washing your hands.
FACT: If after touching pre-ejaculate or ejaculate you hands were washed before touching yours (females) or your female partner’s genitals then there’s no risk of pregnancy. If you wiped your hands off after touching ejaculate or pre-ejaculate then there was no risk or an exceptionally low risk of pregnancy. To have a viable pregnancy risk with manual sex, your hand would have to be literally dripping with semen.

can you explained to me?

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Saffron Raymie
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Sperm cells are much too delicate to be transfered on hands in manual sex (sex using hands and fingers). They need very specific conditions to be able to travel anywhere. They use semen to travel in, and once the condition of that semen is changed (like from being on a hand) it means that the sperm cannot use them to travel.

However, if your hands were dripping - as in, covered in semen - and you were inserting handfuls of fresh ejaculate into a vagina, then it would be possible to have a pregnancy risk.

Does that make sense? [Smile]

[ 04-02-2012, 08:03 AM: Message edited by: Saffron Reimi ]

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hey ray.. thanks for reply, so it is must like a tears drop in our hand then inserted to vulva to make sperm able to traveling?
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Saffron Raymie
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No, it would have to be loads and loads of semen (much more than a tear drop) - a whole hand full of semen which is inserted straight into a vulva to be dangerous in terms of pregnancy.

(Just in case you'd like that in Indonesian: Tidak, itu akan menjadi jumlah yang sangat tinggi dari air mani (lebih dari setetes air mata) - satu tangan penuh air mani yang dimasukkan langsung ke vulva berbahaya dalam hal kehamilan.)

Hope this helps! [Smile]

[ 04-02-2012, 03:29 PM: Message edited by: Saffron Reimi ]

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so the conclusion : If we wiped our hands off after touching ejaculate or pre-ejaculate then there was no risk or an exceptionally low risk of pregnancy, there will be low risk of pregnancy if a whole hand full of semen which is inserted straight into a vulva, but if we wiped our hand till our hand dried, there will be no risk, is that correct?

hmm, saya suka anda berbahasa Indonesia, Ray.

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You would have to be very intentional in order to have a pregnancy risk this way.. The semen basically has to go from the penis right onto the vulva or into the vagina. If it stays on the hands for any period of time, even if it isn't wiped off, it won't cause a pregnancy risk.

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how about if the semen is fresh then we wiped it away sooner we insert our finger to her vulva?
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Are you asking what would happen if you ejaculated onto your hand then touched her vulva right away?

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yes, what would happen if we ejaculated onto our hand then we wipe the semen so our hand get dry then we touched her vulva?
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Saffron Raymie
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That wouldn't be a risk. Sex with hands really isn't a risk for pregnancy no matter how muvh you touch your penis or ejaculate and wipe or don't wipe. You would have to put lots and lots of ejaculate in to have a risk - more than a person could make in one ejaulation.

[ 04-03-2012, 02:11 AM: Message edited by: Saffron Reimi ]

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for Ray: before that answer you said this to me : a "whole hand full of semen which is inserted straight into a vulva to be dangerous in terms of pregnancy."

there opposite right?

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sorry I have the question again : is it all the answer based on the research that have done before?
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No, they're not opposites; sorry I wasn't very clear. In the first one I said a 'whole hand full of semen' - as in: lots and lots. In the second one, I just said lots and lots. However, if your entire hand was full of semen - and it was dripping - that would be a lot. Either way, I meant a very high quanity of semen.

However, if you're worried about the amount of semen on your hand and whether or not that's risky - washing your hands before you touch a vulva gets rid of all the semen, and makes any sperm cells left on the hand completely unable to travel; so it wouldn't be an issue.

We have an article about washing hands here: The Art of Washing your Hands

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what about not washing our hand but only wipe the sperm or semen till our hand dry?
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That's also okay. Think about it this way. Sperm need a very special situation in which to survive; the semen that sperm are in is this special environment. So, if semen makes any stop between penis and vagina (such as on a hand) the sperm don't survive and can't lead to a pregnancy.

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so dry semen = dead sperm ?
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yes dry semen = dead sperm [Smile]
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