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suziemay
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i dont know whether this sounds stupid or not
but is there any chance i could be pregnant, im really worried

last night, i gave this guy head and he fingered me, and i dont know if some of the sperm could have got on me! he also rubbed his penis on me, but through my clothes, im reallyscared please helpme

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Heather
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Suzie: what you're describing does NOT likely present a pregnancy risk UNLESS your partner rubbed his penis directly on your vulva, without being fully clothed.

Unprotected oral sex, however, DOES present risks of STIs.

Too, you're sitting here THIS worried, and that isn't how this should be. It's really important that BEFORE engaging in sexual activities with a partner, you can talk to them about what risks they present and what you both need to use to prevent them. Do you feel able to do that with your partner?

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suziemay
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i dont think he rubbed it directly, but im so worried that i cant remember

i do feel able to talk to him ,but at the time, i just completely forgot and only thought about being able to get pregnant through actual sex
and then afterwards i began to think about things and thought oh crap

thanks for your help

i really hope im not, i dont know what ill do if i am, i cant have a baby it will ruin my life!

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Heather
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Please remember, again, that pregnancy isn't the only risk with any kind of sex, okay? I know it's obviously one with a pretty big impact, and one everyone can see if it happens, but while many STIs are curable and treatable, that's also only if you're getting tested, and too, some are NOT curable.

And again, pregnancy is not a likely risk here.

So, do you two have condoms on hand for protection with genital contact and oral sex? if not, then it's time to hop on that, start talking, and also start with both of your testing, okay?

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Okay, thanks, i will be more careful now, i do feel really stupid for being so careless

and definetely get some condoms and start talking more

thankyou so much

just hope your right, thanks again xx

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Look, if you're really this freaked out, you CAN go get emergency conrtaception.

However, I really wouldn't say it's needed if there wasn't direct contact. And for a sober person, I realy would think you would remember feeling a bare penis being rubbed for a bit on your bare vulva: I'm not quite sure how a person would forget that, especially if that was a new experience.

[ 09-16-2007, 12:08 PM: Message edited by: Heather ]

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