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XXGuyver
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Hi um my girlfriend wanted to try something new so um we tryed the up the butt thing umm but shes bleeding badly and saids it still really hurts we stoped about 2 hrs ago and i am really up set i mean it looks like shes loseing alot of blood HELP! I DON'T WANT ANYTHING TO HAPPEN TO HER!

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Milke
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You or she needs to call a doctor, babe, and that's about all there is to it. Sorry we can't provide more help, but we can't get your girlfriend medical attention. You, however, can.

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Already called a doctor but they didn't call back shes in the shower right now.... all i can think of is that i may of hit something that made her bleed i mean i know there is bleeding but i think whatever i hit may of made her bleed more so..... well the next time she wants to try something new i'm just going to say oh hel* no not again lol.. i'm going to get her a drink and something to eat now i'll keep ya posted.

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Aria51
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Are you able to take her to an emergency room or an urgent care center? This is really something that needs to be evaluated ASAP.
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XXGuyver
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Everywhere seems to be shut for the night i think its something to do with the war the good thing is the bleeding isn't as bad as b4 and i got her to eat something and have a drink.

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Heather
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Emergency rooms aren't shut for the evening, they're open 24 hours. If there was a war on your soil, sure, that'd be an issue, but there isn't.

Emergency rooms WILL be open. That's why they're called such.

What likely happened, given there is nothing to 'hit" is that you have caused a tear or fissure on or in her anus or rectum. That's especially likely if you did not try 'the anal thing" by first using a lot of lubricant, starting very slowly with gloves and fingers, and only doing what felt good to her the WHOLE time.

You need to get her checked out, ESPECIALLY if you were not wearing a condom, because that would make her risk for infection with a tear or fissure quite high.

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XXGuyver
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Yes i did just what she told me 2 and yes i did have a rubber on and yes i did not go fast and yes i did everything right and i still think i must of hit something even if you say theres notthing to hit anyway i got to go now thanks for the time.

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Well she seems fine today i have just made sure theres no more bleeding and a dr came out and said that something may of been hit and that is what made her bleed so bad.

Anyways shes fine i got her to eat something again and now we are going out for the day c ya.

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alaska
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It's important that an anal fissure, a tear in the skin inside the anus, heals well, and is treated by a doc.

If the doc your girlfriend saw gave you nothing but the vague notion that "something had been hit" inside your girlfriend's anus (which, like Heather posted, is not possible in the first place - any "barrier" you might have felt during the anal sex was most likely caused by the anatomy of the anus or the contents of it), i'd wholeheartedly recommend that your girlfriend sees another, more helpful doc.

Also, wearing a condom during anal sex is not enough, even though it was good you wore it. You absolutely need additional lubricant, and lots of it. In contrast to the vagina, the anus is not self-lubricating.
Futhermore, until your girlfriend has had a check by the doc, and is not experiencing any pain or bleeding during defecating, don't have anal sex. Fissures need to heal well first - otherwise, in extreme cases, they might need operative treatment in the long run.

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quote:
Originally posted by Alaska:
It's important that an anal fissure, a tear in the skin inside the anus, heals well, and is treated by a doc.

If the doc your girlfriend saw gave you nothing but the vague notion that "something had been hit" inside your girlfriend's anus (which, like Heather posted, is not possible in the first place - any "barrier" you might have felt during the anal sex was most likely caused by the anatomy of the anus or the contents of it), i'd wholeheartedly recommend that your girlfriend sees another, more helpful doc.

Also, wearing a condom during anal sex is not enough, even though it was good you wore it. You absolutely need additional lubricant, and lots of it. In contrast to the vagina, the anus is not self-lubricating.
Futhermore, until your girlfriend has had a check by the doc, and is not experiencing any pain or bleeding during defecating, don't have anal sex. Fissures need to heal well first - otherwise, in extreme cases, they might need operative treatment in the long run.


I called another doc as soon as the other one went and i made sure it was a female doc my girlfriend doesn't really like talking about things with male docs.

Anyway as for lubricant yes there was lots and if you look at any Med record you would see that there are walls or something that looks like walls in the anal that can be hit if the female becomes ... Umm i forgot the word anyway the other doc is coming at 2 pm GMT so i'll go walk the dog or something Thanks for the "Help"

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Heather
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The rectums' walls are tight and do not open like the vaginal canal does, so ANY penetration is going to be "hitting" those walls. It's not accidental, nor is it avoidable, that's how anal sex works.

That, however, need not cause bleeding.

To be frank, I'm not buying the doctor story. Sorry. I've been working in sex advice and education for well over five years now, and have answered tens of thousands of questions. At this point, I have a pretty well-developed radar for baloney. So, either the fiction is yours or the doctors, or a mix of both.

I'm closing this thread. What I have to say at this point is this: if your girlfriend was indeed bleeding after anal sex, I suggest she see a GYN, in person, to look at it and treat the tear or fissure. I also suggest in the future that well before anal sex, you take your time and experiment, slowly, with gloved fingers, well-lubricated, taking things very slow, and that your partner tells you when something feels good and when it doesn't. However, given she may have a tear or fissure, not engaging in that activity while that heals is paramount.

And in the future, when posting here, it is required of you you be truthful in the user guidelines. Do understand that.

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