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So I'm going through a pregnancy scare where it's really not logical for me to be pregnant (no semen entered or landed on my vagina, just a case of a teensy bit of pre-cum paranoia on a hand that fingered me afterward, if it was event here), and I've read all the articles and researched and everything, so I know there is practically no chance of being pregnant. I've gotten in these situations before where I promise myself I'll be more careful with my next partner but then...I'm not. And I end up freaking myself out. I have sever anxiety and believe I'm that one in a million who can get pregnant in the strangest of ways, and in the back of my head I know I can't. How can I stop feeling so anxious? And better yet, how can I get better at controlling myself during an intimate moment so I don't go too far so the anxiety doesn't even happen?
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We are not mental healthcare providers, so are not qualified to help users manage or treat anxiety, and that is also outside our scope as a sexual health and sexuality education service.

A mental healthcare provider is who you will need to talk with to be helped well with anxiety, and if you have severe anxiety, as you express, going without that kind of help with it is not likely a sound choice.

This piece may be useful to you:

If, additionally, you are finding you are having trouble controlling your actions, especially when you really do not want to do something, but can't seem to stop yourself, that can be something related, compulsivity, and is something else a mental healthcare provider can work on with you.

Per how to slow things down like you're asking, I wonder if you have read through either of the following pieces designed to help people do just that?
• When Sex "Just Happened" (And How to Make It Happen Instead)
• Whoa, There! How to Slow Down When You're Moving Too Fast

[ 05-16-2014, 08:30 PM: Message edited by: Heather ]

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I'll look into all of it. Thanks [Smile]
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