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The dudekowsky
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I have this big doubt about this, my gf have this pain when we start the sexual relationship, when I introduce my penis, she feels this pain, at the very beginning of the intercourse, so I tried to introduce my penis very slow and careful, she still have this pain, so she went to a doctor and detect an infection, she was on treatment and it's now over. We try having sex again and she still this pain, but she said that it's bearable and normal because she's not used to it. She isn't virgin, so I asked about the previous relationships and she don't Remember, is it normal then, this pain she feels? I'm worried about her and this pain of hers. Hope You can help me. Thanks!

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Heather
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Welcome to the boards. [Smile]

Have you started by taking a look at this piece: From OW! to WOW! Demystifying Painful Intercourse?

This one may also come in handy: Let's Get Metaphysical: The Etiquette of Entry

Also, if she had an infection, did you also see your doctor to be screened to be sure you do not have one? If not, you will want to do that, both for your own health, but also to be sure you are not passing something back and forth which may keep her in pain or keep contributing to it. If you do not already use condoms, that's also important when it comes to preventing infections.

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The dudekowsky
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Thanks... So I supose that the pain it's a little bit normal, guess she needs more lube [Smile]

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Heather
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Well, I would not call pain normal, save that it is common, particularly since it is common, particularly for young, heterosexual women, to wind up in sexual situations where pain is likely, and for them - and their partners - to either not know how to prevent it, or for those young women not to speak up about what they need.

For instance, as one of those pieces talked about, it is very common for folks to be hasty about getting to vaginal entry rather than taking the time with other activities that feel really good and get young women much more turned on BEFORE doing anything that involves entry. Or common for young people not to realize that most of the time, if the start of intercourse hurts, it means it is time to go back to doing more of those other activities because the receptive partner obviously is not all the way there yet. A lot of things, but pain really should NOT be happening, and while lubrication is for sure part of the picture, it is not all there is to it.

I would be happy to troubleshoot this more with you, if you like. To do that, I would just need to have a better idea of how this is going, particularly what is happening before intercourse, including how much your partner, for herself, really even wants intercourse at the times she is having pain. It would also be helpful to know what infection she recently had.

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