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fluorite
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I have ptsd. My family does not know this because it is a very new diagnosis. My parents would probably say they're supportive around what happened to me, but in reality they brush off what I say about having a hard time and ignore it. I am at a point in my life where I need to do something that is a huge trigger for me. When talking to my parents recently this thing came up and they said it was hard for me because of my disability. I told my parents that actually it was hard for me because it was a trigger (though did not use the word trigger because I didn't know I had ptsd at the time) and three days later when I talked to them again (I did have a ptsd diagnosis at that point) they brought up the thing that I have to do and never acknowledged what I had said three days previously and instead said that it was hard for me to do this thing because of my disability. I talked to them again yesterday and they again brought up this thing. I said I am working on it but I do not want to talk about it. They asked again and I said "I'm not going to talk about this right now." and they let it go. At what point can I just hang up the phone if they keep on bringing this up? I want to be clear and communicate but I feel like they're just not listening.

is it on me to remind them of why this is not a topic I want to talk about?

Should they need to know about the ptsd diagnosis?

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If you tell them about your diagnosis is really up to you. I do not think you have any obligation to tell them, but rather, this is about what you want and think would be best for you.

Per hanging up on them, I think if you pre-empt the next time they overstep a limit on the phone with a statement that if they do it again, you will just hang up, because they are not leaving you any other way to hold that limit that then that is something you could do and figure was totally within bounds and propriety.

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ok thanks. I don't want to hang up on them. And I really don't want to have to potentially deal with figuring out what it might mean if they refuse to listen to me so I have to hang up on them. But I need to get this thing done and the more I get triggered around it the worse it is.
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