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Hello, I had sex with my boyfriend with a condom on, but he started in for about a minute or two after ejaculation. When he pulled out the condom was still on and most of the semen were on the tip of the condom. Could the semen leaked out of he base because he stayed in for a few minutes after ejaculation?

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Sam W
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Since this counts as not having used a condom correctly, that decreases how effective the condom was. However, the reason you are not supposed to use a condom is way is because it increases the chances of it slipping off or breaking. Now, having not been present and looking at the condom, there is no way for us to tell whether or not the semen leaked (although it sounds like it had collected at the tip as it was supposed to) so we can't say for certain what the risk level is.

It sounds like you and, more specifically, your partner have had several issues in terms of using condoms correctly. Do you have a sense of why that might be?

[ 02-27-2014, 02:41 PM: Message edited by: Sam W ]

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Heather
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The issue with people hanging around still inside the vagina after ejaculation per condoms is that doing so can make it more likely for the condom to slip off or break. But if that did not happen this time, it did not happen.

For future reference, though, sounds like you need to remind your partner that proper condom use involves withdrawing right after ejaculation. If after that, he still is erect and you both want him to still be inside your vagina, then he needs to out a new condom on to do that, okay?

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So if the condom didn't break or slip, the condom did it job?

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Please answer me?

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If and when condoms are stored properly, then used properly -- including for all genital contact, not just some -- and do not slip off or break, yes, you can very safely presume they did their job when it comes to preventing pregnancy.

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So I didn't have a condom failure from this incident I described above?

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So I guess since the condom didn't break or slip off, I am fine?

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A condom failing, in the context of pregnancy prevention, means someone using a condom became pregnant.

So, if you did not become pregnant while using a condom, then no, it did not fail.

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So from what I described above the condom did it job right?

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since the condom was still on after sex and it didn't break or slip off, I am fine, right?

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Heather has already answered that question from you in this thread, so we will not go over it again.

It sounds, from this thread and others, like using condoms by themselves is causing you some stress around sex. Have you considered maybe dialing down sexual activity to a level at which you would be more comfortable? Or have you considered using a back-up method in addition to condoms.

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