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sweetjane11
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Hello!

To prevent pregnancy, I've been using a combination of FAM and condoms. To be extra safe, I avoid having sex a week prior to ovulation, and during the 24 hours in which the egg is viable. This month, I was supposed to ovulate on the 16th, and seemed to, according to my charting. The egg white cervical mucus was gone by about noon on the 17th. On the 18th, my boyfriend and I had sex twice, using a condom for all contact each time, and the condoms did not slip or tear. He urinated between each ejaculation as well, to rid of any sperm in his precum that could get on my hands, or anywhere on the next condom while putting it on.

I was believed to have been through ovulating, and to have used protection and precaution correctly. Feelin' real good and safe.

However! I noticed later that day that my arousal fluid seemed to last longer than usual. About four hours later it was still present, and it resembled the egg white cervical mucus I have while ovulating. This worries me. Is it possible that I ovulated later than expected, or have split peaks? Or is it normal for arousal fluid to sometimes last that long?

If I did indeed have a viable egg present at the time of intercourse, were these correctly used condoms, (and having had my boyfriend urinate in between having sex the two times to eliminate sperm in precum), enough protection to not have to worry about using emergency contraception?

Thank you so much!

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If the condom was used correctly, there isn't a particular need for EC, as you should be protected from pregnancy by the condom. However, taking EC or not is entirely your decision, and it depends on whatever you feel best about. Taking EC will also make FAM unreliable for you for as much as the next three cycles, as EC can cause temporary changes to the menstrual cycle.

It's not necessary to have your boyfriend urinate between ejaculations when you're using condoms for all contact because the condom will keep in all fluid, including pre-ejaculate.

As far as I know, usually it's advised to allow 48 hours for ovulation. One ova remains viable for a maximum of 24 hours, but there's always a possibility of a second ovulation very close to the first, and that's what the 48 hours covers you for.

We can't tell you for definite what your body was doing, and I am not an expert in FAM! - but from knowing the basics, one suggestion I would make is that you may have ovulated twice and that's why you were still seeing fluid that would indicate your fertile time after you had expected it to be gone. [Edited in later: it may also, more likely, have simply been how your arousal fluid was, and not indicative of anything else. I clarified in a later post and left this post as it was so that the conversation makes sense, and for transparency. Apologies for reading the original post slightly wrongly!]

Do you have a specialist book or training for FAM?

[ 02-20-2014, 08:30 PM: Message edited by: Redskies ]

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sweetjane11
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Thank you Redskies!

I'm nearly positive I can trust that the condoms were good enough. I wouldn't want to mess all I've learned about my cycles though charting. Ah! I wish I'd known about the 48 hour deal... Just more reason to be glad for a backup method.

I don't have a book or training, but have read lots of professional articles on the internet regarding the subject.

Just as a second opinion, would you say confidently that I needn't bother worrying about a possible pregnancy, because of the use of condoms? I just feel a little stressed, because this is the first time my cycle has done something odd like this.

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I understand that you feel worried and would really like a definite answer; I hope you can also understand that I or anyone else can't give that to you, because we weren't there and can't see inside your body. What I can say is that correct use of a condom makes pregnancy very unlikely.

I strongly, strongly recommend that you get a good book on FAM. FAM is an effective method when used correctly, but there are a lot of details to that and it's easy to mess up if you don't know all the details. I checked my thoughts in my own reference book while I was writing my reply to you earlier. My book, and the one I'd recommend, is Toni Weschler, Taking Charge of Your Fertility.

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Thank you! I'll look for that book.
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I swear I read your original post three times through, and yet I still seem to lack the ability to read it properly. I'm sorry! Regarding the type of fluid you had during and after arousal, that may very well be simply because of arousal and not indicative of anything else.

The general information about waiting 48 hours after ovulation is correct, and stands, as does my recommendation to get a book [Smile]

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