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Anne Gotham
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Hello Again Scarleteen

I have a question regarding a guy that i have been dating for a couple of months now.
First of all i want to add that we do NOT engage in any type of sexual activity or behavior, as we have established boundaries within our relationship.
However,even if he gives me a long hug he tends to get an erection.
Or if he simply kisses me (we dont make out) he still tends to get excited.
I Have talked to him about this and have asked him why he gets an erection so quickly when we dont even do anything, and he has told me numerous amounts of times "because im happy i am with you and i like you"
I have also asked him if he thinks of other things such as sex when he hugs or kisses me and he says no. Hes just simply happy to have me. And he also does not understand why he gets an erection so quickly. :/
I have never been in this situation before because usually guys who get erections are typically turned on, but in this case he says he is not turned on when he gets an erection. He is just happy.
I am so confused, is it possible for a guy to get an erection even when he is not sexually stimulated?
I need further clarification on this because everytime i hang out with him, its all i think about.

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Sometimes erections can happen without external stimulus, yes, and that's not unusual, nor bad. It's something that for people with penises can happen even if they not want them, kind of a reflex.

Maybe this link can help you out to have a better understanding about this topic:“i_get_an_erection_when_…”_questions

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