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I'm a 19 y-o female. I just started the pill for a week now. I started it on the 2nd day of my period, and my doctor said I shouldn't need backup (I have a looong cycle, 32-34 days and I bleed for 7-9 days depending on month). However, my boyfriend and I still used a condom on the 4th day I was on the pill (it's combination btw). I take them every day at 10:00-10:05, yesterday I went a little late and took it at 10:15 (had a hectic morning). I'm a very precise person because I don't want to get pregnant. I have a reminder on my phone (although I haven't been needing it, cuz forgetting is not an option when another being coming into the world is on the line). I'm using my pill perfectly, and I would like to have sex with my boyfriend without using a condom, but so far I keep reading these stories like "I was on the pill and got pregnant." Granted, I don't know if they took the pill at the same time everyday, but what if they did? That's terrifying. Or how about those stories that go "I was on the pill and he used a condom and we got pregnant" I'm scared that the one time I decide not to use a condom while on the pill, that bam I'll be that 1 out of 100 person. And even using a condom and the pill is making me paranoid. He even pulls out before ejaculating with the condom and I still get scared. I really want to put an end to this paranoia. This whole bit about pregnancy being "unlikely" doesn't help because it's still 1 out of 100 so what if the first time happens to be that statistic?
My boyfriend and I have been together for 13 months and I've had sex with him 3 times out of those 13 months. I'm turning 20 soon, so I should probably get a grip on my paranoia by now.
Maybe I should stop reading stuff from Yahoo! Answers... >.<

Oh and to add: we use a condom the ENTIRE time, BEFORE penetration.
and I am basically asking for reassurance at this point.

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Well, yes, reading uncredible information never helps anyone. So that is an easy thing you can control and do to help yourself.

Because no method is 100% effective, though, there are always people, every year, who become pregnant using any method. Dual contraception, using two methods, truly is the very best way to prevent pregnancy if and when people are gojng to engage in intercourse. That is what you are doing using condoms and the pill together.

It sounds to me like you very much do not want to become pregnant, so why not just stick with the pill and condoms combined? And if that does not feel like enough to allow to to feel comfortable, you have other options, too, like using a method more foolproof than the pill, like an IUD or implant, or opting out of intercourse until you do feel more okay about this.

There is no age, btw, at which someone is magically okay with any kind of sex or with certain risks. So, even if you were 40, those options would be acceptable, and it would also be okay to feel uncomfortable with a risk of pregnancy.

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