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ammy.
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Lately, porn just hasn't aroused me at all. Everything I find is just fake and sad.
The only other time I can get off is when I'm having erotic texts. (I NEVER send photos of myself, it's all talk from both parties.)

But I sometimes still feel bad about that, and I've figured I just can't have an orgasm without an actual person. But then my friend bought me a vibrator for Hanukkah.
And now I use it every day on my clitoris and it feels amazing. Even then, I don't feel an orgasm. So I have to blast Tegan and Sara songs to cover the noise of the motor, and thinking about Tegan and Sara gets me all shaky and nervous.

Then there's this amazing shockwave where my body looses control of itself and it travels down my legs and up my stomach.
Is that an orgasm?
Because, I. Never. Get. Wet.
When I get horny around other people I get wet, but whenever I do this, I feel great, but there is little to no moisture.

Is this bad? Am I not having an actual orgasm?

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Robin Lee
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Hi Ammy and welcome to Scarleteen,

Nothing you've described here is bad. [Smile]

So long as you're doing things that make you feel good, because you want to do them, then everything is A-Okay!

There's no one way an orgasm is supposed to feel. For some people, it's a really strong sensation; for others, not so much. For a lot of people, after they've had an orgasm (however it feels for them) they experience some sense of resolution or winding down.

Again, though, there's no one right or wrong way to masturbate or have an orgasm so you don't really need to sweat this. [Smile]

It's also not a bad thing not to get wet. Sexual arousal can feel different at different times in different situations. put more simly, our bodies aren't always going to get aroused in the same way, and that's okay.

Here are some articles that might help you out with this:

How Do You Masturbate?


Is Masturbation Okay? (Yep.)

Sexual Response & Orgasm: A Users Guide

http://www.scarleteen.com/article/advice/does_an_orgasm_by_any_other_name_still_feel_as_sweet

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AHIQ
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Hi Ammy,
I just wanted to let you know, that my orgasms feel the same way yours did. A wave of pure amazingness travels down my legs and through my torso. Sometimes I even shake or twitch if I am really relaxed. Its all about how relaxed you are and if youre breathing, remember to breath! [Smile]
But I usually only orgasm from clitoral stimulation as well, and sometimes I get wet and sometimes I do not. And sometimes I actually squirt. And again, all that differs on whether or not I'm relaxed and control my breathing.

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Robin Lee
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Hi AHIQ,

Thanks for wanting to share your experiences with Ammy.

This thread is in the "Ask Scarleteen" forum which means that all replies need to come from Scarleteen staff and volunteers. For future reference, you can post replies in any forum *except* "Ask Scarleteen" and "Emergencies and Crises." Thanks.

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