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KJK2
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I read someone's post on here, but just wanted to clarify. You can tell when a condom has malfunctioned such as when if breaks or tears? For example, if all the cum is still at the tip and there are no tears, it has been used correctly.

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Yes, that's right. And, of course, the condom should still be on the penis when the penis is taken out of whichever body part it was in or on, and the condom should be on the penis for all contact. If a condom is only put on part way through, or only after the first five seconds, that's not proper usage. This should have all the info you need: Condom Basics: A User's Manual

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Okay thanks for clarifying and thanks for getting back so quickly! You guys are really helpful [Smile]

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One more clarification on condoms. I've looked at every article and many message boards. You have told me before that when condoms DO actually break it is a noticeable tear. Also i know most tears are due to user error. So to clarify you don't have to fill it with water or look at it SUPER close to tell whether it worked or not afterwards correct? It would be easily recognizable whether it worked or not?

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That's correct. There's absolutely no need to fill a condom with water or examine it super-closely afterwards because a break or tear will be obvious.

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By obvious you mean like completely destructed such as the popped balloon?

Sorry just trying to understand

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Yes, that's exactly what Heather said in a previous conversation you've had with her, here: http://www.scarleteen.com/forum/ultimatebb.php?/ubb/get_topic/f/2/t/014390.html#000001

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So let me get this straight from all this advice, if a condom is used from start to finish, doesn't slip, doesn't have an obvious year/hole, and if there is fluid inside the condom we can assume it did its job?

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Correct. [Smile]

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And if the condom had broken or torn there wouldn't be any fluid in it. Is all this correct?

[ 11-18-2013, 09:47 AM: Message edited by: KJK2 ]

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I'm not really sure what you mean here. Could you clarify, please?

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You confirmed that if there is fluid in the condom we can assume it worked properly. Would there be any if it hadn't worked?

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Well, sure. If the person hadn't ejaculated there wouldn't be any fluid.

Really, I feel like we're running in circles here. You've read about how condoms work. Anything we tell you here is going to be the same information as what you've already read in our articles.

If you still don't feel secure with this information, I'd suggest that taking a break from sexual activities in which you're using condoms would be your next step.

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People have just told me stories where a condom break wasn't noticeable and I don't know whether condoms can break without it being noticeable or not, like they said. That's the only point where I'm kinda confused, so I'm assuming if there would be liquid in the condom afterwards , then the chances of the condom being broken are slim. But if there isn't we could assume it had broken. But also wouldn't a little tear become big due to friction? So how is it possible a condom could be broken without it being noticeable?

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When a condom breaks from friction, it is going to tend to look like a popped balloon.

On the other hand, if and when condoms degrade -- like due to being stored improperly, or because of using a lubricant that wears the latex, it is possible for there to be more like small holes (but still big enough to see) that, in time, would wear away to a break.

"Stories," told by people anecdotally, especially secondhand, are really not anything we can speak to with this, like other issues. The best we can always advise folks to do is balance information like that with sounder, more broad information.

Sounds like you already have had that as far as we can give it to you. What is the reality this is connected to for you right now? Is this about an actual situation that already happened, or about you asking how to use condoms and how they work in advance of using them?

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My bf told me the other day he's never had a condom break on him, and I wanted to educate myself on how to notice it, in the case it ever does happen. I'm on the pill and we use condoms, so I know my chances of pregnancy are slim to none. However I just wanted to make sure I would know how to recognize a condom that has malfunctioned. If condoms are stored and put on properly, then I would assume they would look like a popped balloon if they malfunctioned.

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Breakage is actually rare, as far as condom failure goes, and especially rare when people are using them as directed. Slipping off is a more standard way condoms fail, when they do.

Do you feel like your questions about this are answered now?

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Yes thanks so much and I'm sorry if I do ask a lot of questions, it's just I know you guys are reliable sources when it comes to this kind of stuff

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Sure thing. I would also be happy to build you a list of links at the site with our condom content.

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Yes please [Smile] so basically from what you said about slipping and breaking, it's obvious when a condom malfunctions. It's not something you wouldn't be able to notice.

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I think I got it now [Smile]

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