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I've been seeing this guy for about 2 months now, going through very good patches but also very bad. There has been a few times when I've said to myself to give up on him but then he sweet talks me and I stupidly believe he cares and that everything is ok. I've liked him for a lot longer than we have been seeing each other and he is literally my perfect guy.

Then on Sunday, he texts me (he never texts me first) asking what I was doing on Thursday. And basically says he wants to see me. I get ridiculously happy about this cos we never really hang out unless we see each other out in our student's union and go home with each other, so I was pleased that he actually wanted to see me properly, which is all I've ever wanted him to do.

So we text for about 5 hours non stop on sunday evening, he tweets me a few times on monday, texting again on tuesday, and then we make proper plans on wednesday. He asks if I want to go out somewhere for dinner (I was NOT expecting this, I just thought he'd ask me to come round and watch a film) so we decide to go out to this place and he'll pick me up at 7.

The whole time I kept thinking how unlike him this was, cos he's never mentioned taking me out properly before and he says he NEVER plans anything so I actually thought that he wanted to see me and treat me better.

Then yesterday at 4:30 I get a text saying 'hey, got an email from a prospective company for a job and they want to meet me at 7, so can we reschedule? [Frown] [Frown] [Frown] '

I reply pretty quickly saying 'oh that's a shame but yeah we can reschedule. hows saturday for you?'

And he doesn't reply. I see him logged in on facebook and he still hasn't replied. So at about 11pm I text 'did your meeting go ok? and don't worry about having to reschedule we'll go soon [Smile] ' and he didn't reply to that either. He has purposely ignored my texts.

I really do not understand why he would do this! If he didn't really want to see me then why go to all this effort to make plans with me? None of it was my idea it was all on him, and then he cancels and ignores my texts. I don't get it.

What do you think I should do now? And do you have any idea about why he would ignore my texts after we'd been getting on so well?

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We don't know him or anything about this relationship on the whole, so I don't think we could hazard any sound guesses about why he made plans like this with you, and, when he had to reschedule, has dropped the ball.

Per why he asked to reschedule in the first place, seems pretty clear, per his having a job interview.

But you could certainly tell him how you feel about this if it is bothering you, and ask him about it. That said, I would say that giving people at least a day to return calls, emails or texts is a reasonable thing. Not everyone is going to get messages or get back to people so quickly.

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