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maria2468
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Hello,
For a very long time, I have been having irrational pregnancy scares. Almost every time I see a white or transparent liquid, I think it is semen and it well get me pregnant. And even though I know that there is no way that fluid is semen, I start imagining all kinds of scenarios, and these scenarios give me a "good reason" to believe that the liquid is semen. I talk about this with my mother, my therapist.. But nothing seems to get these thoughts out of my head, and I feel like a freak. Please help me.

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Robin Lee
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Hi Maria,

In your last post, you said you were going to talk to your mother. From the sounds of things, she was receptive to your conversation and you are now seeing a therapist.

What tools has your therapist given you to help you when you start to panic and invent scenarios to support that panic? In other words, what has your therapist told you to do when you start panicking?

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maria2468
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My therapist did not tell me what do do when I start panicking,but every time I visit her she tells me there is no reason to panic. What she is more focused on is what is causing these pregnancy scares, and thinks the reason is because I am used to being a victim at my old school and now I am making up problems, because I cannot live without the feeling that I am a victim, and there is nobody bullying me in my new school.

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Sam W
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Hi Maria,

If your therapist has not given you advice on what to do when you start to panic, I would ask her for some at your next appointment. That way, you have a way to care for yourself in moments where you feel the panic come on but you can't access your therapist.

I want to ask how helpful you are finding your current therapist. Do you feel like the approach they are taking is helping your anxiety around sperm at all?

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maria2468
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I do think so. These thoughts do not cause me the same amount of anxiety, and now I understand how irrational they really are. Yet I still have no idea on how to free myself from them. Even if I do come in contact with fresh semen (I mean if I touch it) and then wash my hands before I use the bathroom, there is no pregnancy risk, right? Neither if I sit on it.

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Robin Lee
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You're correct. I do encourage you to talk to your therapist about things you can do when you start having the panicky thoughts and you're not in her office. [Smile]

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Thank you [Smile] .

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