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cutiepie90
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i had a bf who likes to ejaculate every week. he told me that he loves me to help him. Is it good to do this always in a relationship?

sometimes i had rejected him, but he kept asking which ended up, i had giving up. our relationship is about 9 mths till now.

i do not know how long can i help him, sometime which i tink i m tired... he always requested, and i had to give in...

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Edith_*
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Hi Cutiepie!

Just so you know (in case you don't) you are always entitled to say no to ANY kind of sexual activity, and that is something your boyfriend needs to respect.

It doesn't matter if you have been dating for 9 months, 2 days or 10 years, if you don't feel okay doing something, you DON'T have to do it.

Sex, o f any kind, it is not something we "have to give in", it should be something we enjoy doing everytime.

Have you talk to him and let him know how you feel about this?

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cutiepie90
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I do not really know how should i really start to tell him. I did not tell him that I did not like. Just because he kept asking, making myself to give in.

I did stop him from going further, he did stop it and nvr go further which i thinks it's still fine.

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Heather
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When someone doesn't just drop something when we say no, or don't say yes, and keeps pushing us, with words or bodies, to do something sexual they like, that's coercion and it's a kind of sexual assault.

So, that's not a safe situation, and it's not part of a healthy sexual relationship.

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