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m1531
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I have posted the Q some days back....but something weird has happened...plz read...


I had asked before some days about this but again cz of some stupid actions have done a mistke...
My gf was gvin me a HJ and she touched my penis with her hand...there was precum on the tip...but aftr say 5 minutes or so...she went to the washroom for a pee...she forgot to wash her hands and went inside...she's saying that she dint touch her *****...but am really worried that if she has touched her ***** can she be pregnant..?? Only touch no kind of fingering...she ws on cd 17 and her cycles have been irregular...as she has had a couples of 40 day cycles in her last 2 cycles...and has arnd 32-36 day cycles..really plz help

Today 29th september she saw 2-3 drops of blood on her panty...she thought it was her periods...she wore a pad but now after almost 6 hours she hasn't had any blood flow...what is it then..?? Implantation..?? Plzz help because you all have told that it isn't a risk but what's this now..??

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Jacob at Scarleteen
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Hey m1531,

This doesn't sound like 'something wierd' to me. Just more cycle irregularities for someone who's cycles you've already described as irregular...

Nothing here says pregnancy.

Given the frequency and severity of your worries surrounding pregnancy here, I find myself really concerned for you and your girlfriend...

I can only imagine that this entire relationship would be extremely stressful most of the time. Is that the case?

If so, the suggestion I would give would be to try and step back from the relationship... and to try and address whatever the personal source (probably not pregnancy risk) of your anxiety is inside you.

[ 09-29-2013, 08:42 AM: Message edited by: Jacob at Scarleteen ]

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No...no question of breaking the relation...am just worried about why she spoted instead of a flow..?? Ya her periods are irregular but whenever they come its a normal flow and not spotting...and also she expected her period by 27th sept and today she spoted so asking..?? Is it her periods..??
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Our bodies are not machines, so even things that happen often or regularly will not always look the same. Spotting while not on birth control is often just the period starting. No periods are a constant "flow", it's not like an injury that is bleeding out. It is more like drops and clumps coming out in intervals.

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If just the rate of her bleeding while she has a period (which since you said was irregular sounds completely normal for her) is stressing you out this much, and even the fact that you are even paying that much attention to her bodily functions, it is often a sign something else is wrong. Perhaps you are moving too quickly, are not ready for the sexual activities you are having, or for the intensity of this kind of relationship? Have you considered stepping back from the kinds of sex that are causing you this anxiety?

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Yaa i agree with you...but she's not on birth control... So u mean to say that her periods have started..?? And then some kind of flow will occur..??
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I'm saying NO periods are really a "flow" and spotting a little bit and then getting nothing for 6 hours is pretty normal when a period is light. We really need to stop talking about these crazy details of her period, though, it's really not productive.

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No i meant her cycles are irregular...not the bleeding part...whenever she starts a period she has a normal kind of flow..but this time she's spotting...
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I'm not sure how else I can convince you this is normal for people with uteruses. If she is really worried about it for some reason she should see a doctor.

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Ok ok...if anything else happens il post it...plz do help... [Smile]
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I would recommend NOT analyzing her pads so much and NOT posting with every detail of what you find. I really don't think it's productive.

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I just had a talk with my girl...she told that in the whole day just 4-5 drops of blood came...and i agree with you all that there is little blood to come during periods but she hasnt even changed the pad since almost 14 hours...
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Hey again m1531,

I would agree that posting here with these questions is really not helpful, as sadly it does seem there is nothing we can say to help.

You say that you will not question your decision to be in this relationship, to engage in sex that causes you so much anxiety, or even reflect on that anxiety.

However these are the only things I can recommend in your situation... I'm also somewhat concerned at how little faith you put in your girlfriend's management and assessment of her own health and it sounds to me like it could be quite harmful to her own ownership of those things.

I really would like you to be able to get past what you're going through, and what she's going through with you. I can only see this happening however if the conversation you're trying to have with us stops happening and we are forced to move onto something else, a topic like those I've mentioned which could actually lead to the quality of life I wish on both of you.

Failing that, I don't see how we can answer your questions any more.

Can you understand where I'm coming from?

I don't know how we can continue to answer those questions given the harm that prolonging this conversation causes you both, and the upsetting hopelessness of having to repetitively give answers you have shown us are not yet able to help you.

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