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afrojunk
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Good afternoon,
I have a girlfriend and a little problem. She is on the pill since january and has never missed taking the pill and she takes it each morning between 8 and 9 (only one time in her first month).

We had unsafe sex yesterday for the first time and i had a little problem. I heard a noise in the house when we were having sex and so I got a little frightened/jumped. Suddenly, By hearing the noice my penis made some beats/pulses and since we were still have sex I pulled it immediateley out after the first beat, but it didn't feel like I got an orgasm (since there was no feeling that i was going to have an orgasm (no top horny feeling before orgasm or any feeling just pulses), just 5 pulses) and I THINK/am uncertain if there was no cum, but since the lights were out i couldn't see. when we turned the lights on, there were no traces of white sperm on the bed or on my penis. Usually when we have sex it takes like 15 minutes before i can get hard again, but now I was hard again after like 30 seconds. (my girlfriend wanted to continue and so thats how i noticed, but i said i didn;t want to)

can someone help me with: 1. cause of those pulses and 2. pregnancy risk ( i know the articles of the site)3.pregnancy risk if there was cum inside her (regarding to the first alinea)

kind regards

[ 09-22-2013, 09:55 AM: Message edited by: afrojunk ]

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Robin Lee
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Hi Afrojunk,


By unsafe sex, I think you mean sex without a condom. Am I understanding that correctly? Generally when we use the term unsafe sex we're referring to sexual activity that puts someone at a higher risk of STI transmission.


Well, since you were startled, it's possible that your heart rate increased, which would have affected your circulation. When a person has an erection, there's a lot of blood concentrated in one area, so a change in circulation could well be felt as a pulsing.

We really can't tell you for sure what was going on there, though.


For your question about pregnancy risk, take a look at these two articles about the pill and about withdrawal and look at the effectiveness rates for both of those. That will give you an idea of your risk with that sexual activity.

Combined Oral Contraceptives (The Pill)


Withdrawal

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afrojunk
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yes, with unsafe sex I mean sex without condom. oh i always thougt that unsafe was used to refer to wsex without an condom.

okay it was kinda strange. and i really dont know if there was cum ( and then there comes human side that you are doubting yourself, but she was pretty wet but there was no cum to see.

the only thing i dont understand about this is the safety. show cant there be full protectiveness when she has always yas takeb

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yes, with unsafe sex I mean sex without condom. oh i always thougt that unsafe was used to refer to wsex without an condom.

okay it was kinda strange. and i really dont know if there was cum ( and then there comes human side that you are doubting yourself, but she was pretty wet but there was no cum to see.

the only thing i dont understand about this is the safety. show cant there be full protectiveness when she has always has taken the pill on time and she does not use any medication?
and i read they other article about withdrawal but i find it a bit confusing about the risk

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Hi afrojunk,

I'm not quite sure I understand your question about the full protection of the pill - even for perfect users who take it according to directions, there is a very small number of people who do get pregnant on the pill; that's why it isn't listed at full effectiveness. It's quite rare, though.

For the effectiveness of perfect use of the pill plus withdrawal, you can check that out here: The Buddy System: Effectiveness Rates for Backing Up Your Birth Control With a Second Method

It's listed as being 99.98% effective with perfect use, which really is about as protected as you can get.

If it turns out that you did ejaculate in her, then she's still protected with the "perfect use" level of protection from the pill, which, again, is very high on its own.

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