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vaiva
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Hello, I am 18 and I have a serious mental issue with showing my breasts to the guy I really like. both times we had sex we were in clothes.
[Image removed per our guidelines.] my breasts look just as the picture in the left .. [Frown] [Frown]

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September
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Welcome to Scarlteen, vaiva. I am sorry to hear that you are feeling so self-conscious! Have you been able to talk to your partner about your insecurities? How has that conversation gone?

Every body looks different, and ideally that should not be a source of shame. How do you feel about your body aside from your breasts? How do you feel about yourself in general?

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Johanna
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vaiva
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Hi there Joey,
thanks for the reply!

No I havent been able to talk about my insecurities, it is my first partner and he has been with many pretty girls. I did mention him I have a problem with it but he didnt take it seriously..
With a bra on I look damn good, thats why it must be hard to believe..
And once I show him my breasts.. Im scared of the reaction eventho he's supportive about anything at all.

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Robin Lee
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Hi Vaiva,

Has your boyfriend said anything to make you think that he would react negatively on seeing your body?

It sounds like you're comparing yourself to his previous girlfriends, and are thinking that he's also comparing you. The reality is, though, that he's in a relationship with *you* not with any of them.

I'd encourage you to talk to him, rather than presuming what he'll think or feel. I know it feels vulnerable to talk about these things. The two of you have already engaged in sexual activity. You've already touched and experienced each other's bodies. It's important to be able to talk about that, as well as doing it. [Smile]

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