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MrRaphyRoo
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First of all the main fact is im only 13, Yes I know - pretty young to care about penis size, but infact it makes me rather self conscious.
I was an early bloomer to puberty, started at the age of 10; got hair before everyone, had a full bush at 11, I am strongest in my year group at school, voice broke 2 years ago, but the two things I'm lacking is penis size and a visbile, defined Adams apple.. I am wonderring if this early bloom of puberty means that the usual order has been flipped and my penis size will grow, soon but it all worries me because I am part of the mature group of kids for a 13 year olds, and hang around with older people and stuff, and seen as everyone I socialise with is mature we're all at that phase where everyone's becoming sexually active, and I've had my oppurtunities and stuff but I can't actually do anything as im too worried. My penis isn't necessarily small, it's just really thin, and has no girth at all, it's 5" erect and about 3-4" on a flop but it looks pathetic with no thickness and even has that excessive amount of foreskin on the end, I heard the penis grows in spurts and id like to have more information regarding whether or not it's just going to take time considering my early bloom and the signs i have or im just going to have to live with a small penis. [Frown] [Confused]

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Heather
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How about we continue this conversation in your other thread here -- http://www.scarleteen.com/forum/ultimatebb.php?/ubb/get_topic/f/1/t/009010/p/1.html#000001 -- MrRaphyRoo?

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MrRaphyRoo
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Sorry I felt that the other one was a lot less maturely explained, like I was giving a frantic rave about it all, I also believe this gives a lot more crucial information regarding the problem, so If you could, could we have the conversation here?

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Heather
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Well, you're not required to have any more maturity than, you know, you have. [Smile] It's okay for you to be 13. [Smile]

But if you don't feel comfortable in that thread, okay.

Ultimately, we can't make predictions about what ANY part of your body, including your penis, will look like after puberty. And we can be sure that at your age, and given only three years of being into puberty, you likely still have a lot of changes ahead of you, including with your penis size -- length and width -- and shape, as well as how it looks flaccid and erect and how big or full those erections are and will be.

We're not all on either the same schedule or exactly the same order when it comes to puberty. And penis size tends to be one of those things that keeps on going and keeps changing for some time. To give you a good idea about that, you can take a look at a chart like this one: http://teenhealth.about.com/od/physicalhealth/f/penissize.htm

Just because you were "ahead" of your friends in regard to other parts of sexual development doesn't mean this particular part should also be "ahead." Might it be that you finish your penis growth earlier than your friends? maybe, but at 13, starting puberty at 10, you still have some years to go before puberty is finished with you. [Smile]

You know, there's a lot to readiness for sex, and while how we feel about our bodies and their parts are one, I'd certainly not say that's usually the most important part. being ready and able to do things like get sexual healthcare, knowing how to use and using safer sex and contraception, negotiate consent, set and hold limits and boundaries, talk candidly and openly with partners about what we and they want, taking care of each other emotionally? These are all some of the other parts, and things your average person usually isn't ready or able to do at 13. And if penis size is the biggest of their worries (no pun intended), and not things like that, then chances are that's telling us they're pretty far from ready in a way bigger way. Get what I mean?

Really, even the idea that what size your penis is or what it looks like is something most people who aren't you or your male friends will even care about tells me that it's probably a good idea to hold off on sex with others for a bit now, since again, there are just far more impactful things to deal with and consider.

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