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t4me03
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I know that first time penetration can hurt for a woman because her vagina has never been stretched before. My question is; if a woman hasn't had sex in 10,15,20 years, can her vagina/hymen go back to a virgin-like state? Meaning her vaginal opening would shrink in size and tampons, etc. would hurt when inserted. I ask because I was sexually abused as a child and I thought it had just been digits/objects used in penetration. I've had recent memories of genitalia being involved as well. However, I remember my vaginal opening being small as a kid and tampons et al hurting when I got older. Since I've been penetrated as an adult, my vaginal opening has enlarged. I question whether my recent memories are accurate because the physical evidence doesn't match up. Could a larger object penetrate a vagina and not cause physical changes in anatomy?
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Hi T4me03 and welcome to Scarleteen,

The vagina does not increase with size after being penetrated.

It's a muscle, and goes back to its original shape and form after any object has been removed unless there is physical injury from the penetration. In the latter case, there would be bleeding, pain, or both as a sign of injury.

I'm going to give you some articles about genital anatomy to make this more clear, and if you have questions after reading those we can go from there.


Innies & Outies: The Vagina, Clitoris, Uterus and More


http://www.scarleteen.com/article/advice/how_can_vaginas_not_vary_much_in_size_for_real

I'm not entirely clear on what you're asking for here. Are you asking because you're currently having pain with vaginal insertion

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t4me03
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That's not really what I was asking. The vaginal opening of a virgin is small because her hymen has never been stretched, correct? Whereas a woman who has had intercourse would have a larger vaginal opening. Tampons, digits, etc. stretch the hymen when inserted. Is it possible to have that hymen stretched at one point, and then "shrink" back to the way it was over an extended period of time?
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Does this help you out at all?

My Corona: The Anatomy Formerly Known as the Hymen & the Myths That Surround It

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t4me03
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A little. I guess my question is if the corona hasn't been worn away, then the vagina hasn't been penetrated? Does that make sense?
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Hey t4me,

Basically you're actually referring to a bit of a myth. The corona is some very soft tissue and can hardly felt for most people. It varies in shape widely, and so there's no standard before & after penetration state which is common among folks... it also may not even be visible at all by the time of 'first penetration, or it may not change much at all.

This idea of the vagina 'stretching' comes from the experience many people have of penis in vagina intercourse, whereby it may be uncomfortable at first but then gets better. But contrary to popular belief for the vast majority of the time this isn't down to physical changes like 'stretching' but just the fact that people become more confident and relaxed having sex... and the pain and difficulty associated with penetration comes from being tense and unaroused. Sadly it means some people feel they need to experience discomfort as part of a necessary process... which could be avoided if we focused on being relaxed and aroused rather than pushing through pain thresholds.

So actually people actually tend to use similar tampon sizes and what not, and much of this stretching/not stretching is a misconception... the state of the corona is rarely a factor in comfort, compared to the things I mentioned.

Does that help?

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A little bit I guess. Thanks.
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