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The day after I have sex with my boyfriend, my vagina is dry and tight. So dry that even if I were to try and insert a finger, or anything, it is painful and difficult to do so. The inside walls feel dry and rough and it feels totally foreign from what it should feel like. It almost feels as if it gets tight and closes off! Which I know is ridiculous to say but I can't think of how else to explain. It has been happening ALMOST every single time we have sex for a very long time and it's driving me to hate being intimate with him because I suffer for the next few days, almost without fail. I was once diagnosed with a yeast infection but that was when the symptoms were a little more severe and annoying. I don't have itchiness or lot's of discharge (i would welcome any dc at all [Frown] ). What i do have is extremely dry white "discharge" (you cant even call it that) with a smell that isn't BAD, but just not normal. It almost smells like a condom....

I don't think I could have a latex allergy bc I can wear latex gloves, but I can't figure out what's going on.

I have a GYN appointment on Monday the 29th but by the time I go, it'll probably be back to normal.... but I would like to be able to explain to her what happens but it's hard to put into words...and it seems like I am the only one that suffers this. So, wondering if this sounds like something anyone's heard about before so I could look up information to see if it sounds like what I've been going through. I tend to get dry during sex so we've been using lubricant....I'm in my TWENTIES, that's ridiculous to have to rely and depend solely on lube. And yesterday, though this has not happened before I felt some deeper pelvic pain or cramping while we were having sex.

It's to the point where I have a very negative association with sex. I can't even enjoy sex with him.And that makes me feel terrible and it turns into a huge vicious cycle.

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I don't mean discharge in the sense that it shows. Only that is what is left on my finger should I try to insert it. HAHA. That sounds weird, but I've grown accustomed to seeing what's going on "in there" the day after sex to see if I got lucky or if once again, I have this weird issue.
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I'm not sure why you think it's ridiculous to want or need lube for any reason, nor because of your age. From all I can gather in fifteen years of working in and with people's sexuality, more people DO use lubricant with sex with entry -- especially once they're outside their teens and realizing some myths about sex, like people not needing or using lube, aren't true -- than those who don't. Especially people who use condoms, where additional lube is basically required.

I think the way you're wording all of this should express what's been happening very clearly to your GYN. I'd bring with you, just in case, what lubriicants you have been using, and your history with yeast (and if your partner hasn't been tested for yeast, say that, too, as a mild yeast infection being passed back and forth is something that can happen and could be part of the issues here). I'd also try and express how you're using lubricant: are you applying it before anything starts, or only once/if you feel dry, for instance?

I'd also be sure to mention if you're engaging in intercourse when it's something you don't feel good about and don't enjoy: that may also be playing a part here.

But ultimately, your GYN should ask all the questions they need to to figure out what's up here.

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