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misscutiepie
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My boyfriend 'went down' (licked out)on me a couple of days ago and I soon realised after I had open skin after a lump caused by an ingrown hair burst and seeped blood, the thing i'm nervous about is whether my boyfriends saliva coming in contact with the open skin could cause something like HIV :/ (it wasn't bleeding at the time i'm sure)
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Heather
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HIV is a virus. That is what an HIV infection is caused by, like a cold is caused by a cold virus.

So, unless you or your boyfriend *have* HIV, HIV cannot be transmitted or acquired in this way.

Since it sounds like you two are engaging in unprotected oral sex, are you both current with tests for STIs, including HIV, so that you can know what you are or aren't likely at risk of?

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misscutiepie
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My boyfriend has never been sexually active until he was with me so I gather it is unlikely he would have anything and as for me, it is also highly unlikely. Thereby considering that me and my boyfriend both are 'clean' can I safely say that there was no risk or a slim one?
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Robin Lee
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Hi misscutiepie,

Believing that you and your boyfriend are both unlikely to have any STIs isn't the same as having had those tests and knowing your results.

So, without that information we really can't tell you what your risks are here.

When talking about having or not having STIs, it's much more sound and respectful to talk about having negative or clear tests, or about not having STIs, than to say that one is "clean." Clean implies that people with STIs are dirty, which is not only untrue, but also really disrespectful and inflammatory when talking about STIs or people who have them.

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misscutiepie
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I greatly appologise I didn't want to imply that at all so I'm really sorry I just wasn't aware of the correct term, again I'm sorry. Am i right in saying that in order to get an Sti the person performing the sexual act has to have one? Providing me and my boyfriend both tested negative if we both test soon, can I say that there was no risk at that point?
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Molias
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It's correct that you can't get an STI from someone who doesn't have one, yes. So your best bet, at this point, is for both of you to get tested and go on from there.
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misscutiepie
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So negative tests would insure that there was no risk ?^^
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Heather
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If you both test negative for HIV, then there would have been no risk of HIV, yep.

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misscutiepie
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Is that the same in terms of STIs?
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yep!
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