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Sunday Morning
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So I'm ovulating (I think). I have a few questions:

1) Is it normal to have a kind of cramp in the middle of the cycle - around the time of ovulation? I've heard of middle pain - and how it can be sudden and one-sided. Well that's what I'm feeling now. Is this normal? I also feel an increase in discharge.

2) I had oral sex and manual sex today. My boyfriend fingered me. I'm pretty sure he didn't have any pre-ejaculate on his hands. We both had our underwear on the whole time. I would've noticed if he reached in his underwear. Well - in the off-chance that they may have been trace amounts - that does NOT pose a pregnancy risk - correct?

It would be unnecessary to take plan B - right? I'm just paranoid right now.

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1) Some people do have a bit of cramping with ovulation, so it's entirely possible that's the cause here. Sometimes cramps just happen for no obvious reason, too, so unless you're in a lot of pain I wouldn't say it's anything to worry about.

2) That's correct. Plan B is not necessary here.

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Is it normal to have increased discharge during ovulation time? I had a lot of discharge yesterday. But then again - I also had a lot of oral and manual sex. That's all normal right? Like I could literally feel the discharge coming out.
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Yep, that can certainly happen after sex and throughout the cycle different times. If it doesn't have a bad odor, off color, or isn't chunky or really very profuse its normal discharge.

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Heather
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If you haven't seen them yet, these two pieces can give you that information:

• Honorably Discharged: A Guide to Vaginal Secretions
• On the Rag: A Guide to Menstruation

I'd just add that since you've been sexually active, if you are NOT current with your sexual healthcare, like your GYN exam and STI tests, if discharge you don't usually see persists, or the cramping continues, we'd advise getting current with that healthcare to rule out an infection as the cause.

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Also - I talked to someone on planned parenthood and they said this and I got confused:

"Pregnancy is possible anytime sperm enters the vagina or gets on the vulva, the area around the vaginal opening. If you or your partner’s hands are wet with semen or pre-ejaculate and touch your vagina, then pregnancy is possible. But if the semen has dried or your hands have been washed since touching semen or pre-ejaculate, then pregnancy would be extremely unlikely.'

It says if the hands are wet with semen OR pre-ejaculate and touches the vagina - pregnancy is possible. I thought it really wasn't.

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I think you guys need to understand how cautious those of us in this work need to be, particularly around liability.

Technically, it is not impossible for pregnancy to happen that way, Therefore, even though it's so unlikely that it's nearly impossible, we still can't say it is impossible much of the time.

Because most of us, be it Scarleteen, Planned Parenthood, or other credible organizations where people are actually held responsible for information they provide do not want to put our organizations at risk with lawsuits.

[ 07-16-2013, 12:32 PM: Message edited by: Heather ]

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Ah I understand. So it's really a matter of wording, then. It's not technically impossible (therefore somewhat possible), but it is highly unlikely.

Have you ever heard of anyone who has gotten pregnant this way?

I'm assuming no - right? Because as your website says if I understand correctly - it's not direct transfer (from vaginal intercourse or direct ejaculation)?

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No, I most certainly have not.

I can say, with great confidence, that the many, many users we have had over the years worried about these things?

Have never, ever reported a pregnancy from them, and their problem has clearly been either a lack of education, an ongoing phobia or anxiety issue, engaging in sex before they really feel okay about it and are ready, an issue of a crappy or problematic relationship, or all of the above.

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Thank you so much. This is really, truly reassuring for me.
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Btw, I see in another post of yours you talking about engaging in at least one kind of sex you don't really like engaging in for your own sake.

That's a clue, a good one, I'd say, to you that some of this panic may be less about pregnancy and more about doing things you feel anxious about because you're not really into them and doing them for yourself as much as for a partner.

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