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Elessar
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Hi,

I know you guys have said again and again that sperm cannot travel through fabric, as long one person is wearing undergarments etc, its okay, but I have noted that your older posts does say that there is a slight risk.. Why is that so?

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Robin Lee
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Hi Elessar,

Can you please give us some links to the posts you're referring to?


We really can't address what you're asking about unless we see what you're referring to.

However, know that anything we've published in the last few years is accurate. We've spent a good deal of time not only making sure the information we include in those articles is correct, but that it's clear and understandable. [Smile]

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Hi Robin.

Here you go. http://www.scarleteen.com/forum/ultimatebb.php?/ubb/get_topic/f/28/t/005531.html#000011

Thanks!

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unless what they are trying to say that the material is like thongs or holes which are visible to the eyes... is that it? Cause i had a long discussion about this with you too i think... [Frown]

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Yes, if it's a thong, there certainly is the possibility that the thong would get pushed aside during sexual activity and there could be bare genital contact.


Really, the way I'm reading the post you linked is that the volunteer was saying there was really no risk, and they just had a different way of wording what we've been talking about here with you.


Sexual activities with clothes on just aren't a way pregnancy is known to happen. [Smile]

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oh.. alright. thus, as long as one party is wearing undergarments its totally no risk at all? sorry. i read that and panicked a little

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cause she was like just wearing panties and on top of me while i had nothing on.. so was just a little worried.. [Frown]

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Well, you know, we've already talked about this, so while I understand you panicking, the most relevant information is the information you yourself have been given. [Smile]

now, based on the information you've been given, you get to decide what you're comfortable doing in future.

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haha. okay thanks robin. teach a man to fish eh. I take this as no risks. [Smile] thanks and i will try to cool down.

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and i really do appreciate the support of this site too. thanks a lot. really. I am still a bit worried but i'd try to calm down..

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i assume that its still a no risk right...? sorry robin, but i really do hope to get an answer..

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You're welcome. Just remember that facts are facts.


One of the things I think might help you stop worrying is for you to stop searching for information, including not searching old posts on our boards.


If you feel like you need to review information to help yourself, you can use this:

Can I Get Pregnant, or Get or Pass On an STI From That?

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oh. okay. thanks for replying! yea. read that before this too. saw this :
" No risk, unless only one partner is wearing a very thin garment that allows for some direct genital contact, like a thong, or there is accidental fluid contact. In those cases, there may be low risk."

and started thinking too much.. about what is thin, thats why i asked.

Maybe what you say is true.. i should stop searching. [Frown]

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how about trying that and seeing how it works for you. you already have the facts, and the facts don't change. [Smile]

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Trying that? What's that? Sorry I don't get you.

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Oh as in stop searching?

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That's my guess as to what she meant! =)
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Haha. Thanks. I'd try. But I just wanna make sure that whatever I'm doing is safe. I won't take it further than this for now. I really can't stand the idea of her being pregnant. She's not at all worried though. Lol. She kept telling me there's nothing. But I was just thinking too much

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Is it normal for guys to worry like me? Lol

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Some people worry about things more than other people, doesn't matter if they're guys, girls, or any other gender.

Do you find you tend to worry a lot about things in general?

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yes. i used to get paranoid when i was young. siblings said i think non relevant stuff... just wanna know if im weird. [Frown]

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nah i only start to worry cause i saw her undies getting wet, and then think of all these

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So, now that you have the facts, do you feel like you can stop worrying?

And as to whether you're weird, I personally don't think so. Even if you were the only person in the world who worried about this or anything else (and I can assure you you're not) there wouldn't be anything wrong or weird about you. if you worry, you worry.

But again, now that you have the facts, how is your level of worry?

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A bit. Haha. I do feel better. Thanks. I just find it weird that she is not a tit bit worried but I'm the one worrying. Lol.

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Well, worry isn't always logical. [Smile]

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Yea. And I was told that if that's the case there will be wayyyy more unwanted pregnancies out there if this could happen. I'd try to worry less when this happens again then.

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Anyways robin,just wanna thank you for your kind advice and time. Really appreciate it. Will try to worry less based on facts, where its totally no risks now. [Smile]

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You're very welcome. [Smile]

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