Okay so I've been with my boyfriend for 8 months and we'd been trying for weeks to have sex. We finally got the chance and honestly, my first time and his was amazing! I had a bit of pain and no blood but it just felt so right! We felt so loved and connected with eachother and our bodies and I know he's the one! But I'm concerned because we wanna do it again! But I'm worried that sex wont feel as great as it did my first time..I don't want it to not be as passionate as it was..I'm so happy I lost it to him but I only regret not being able to "re-lose" it and feel that happiness. My question is , does sex change emotionally after your first time ? Is it not as passionate ? I'm scared .. I want it to be that amazing each time!
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HI skylerrose22 and welcome to Scarleteen,
Sex with someone is never the same experience more t han once. That is, what we think here at Scarleteen, what can make it pretty awesome for a lot of people. There are just too many factors that can change, such as how each partner is feeling, what they choose to do sexually, and so on. It's also not going to be fabulous each time. That's just reality, somewhat like, say, an exercise routine might feel fabulous and energizing one day, okay another, and like a real drag on yet another day.
However, none of that means that you aren't going to experience wonderful sexual times with your boyfriend. It sounds like, for you, the fact of it being the first time was very special to you. sure, you won't have the experience of the first time with the things you did again. However, you'll have plenty of first experiences as life goes on, first time doing new sexual activities, first time engaging in sexual activities in a new place; in short, there will be other events that give you that feeling of newness.
I'm curious about you saying that you lost something with your boyfriend and I'm wondering if that is contributing to your fear that sex won't be as good again. I'm wondering if, instead of framing this as losing something, you frame it as gaining a new experience. What do ou think?
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