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jparanoid
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Good day. This would be my first time in Scarlet Teen and recently I have been checking this website to learn more about sexual education. However, the past week I have been stressed out of my mind due to an incident that happened to me and my girlfriend. LastlastFriday, during cycle day 13, I ended up rubbing her clitoris with my fingers. At that time I thought it was just nothing, but a few days after, I realized that I could have had some precum on my fingers. However, my girlfriend was the one who did a handjob on me, but I did not touch my penis. I am just grealty concerned about my hand possibly hitting it by accident. In addition to this, I also did not ejaculate during that session, but only had precum, which was the transparent stuff.
Based on these facts, my question then would be whether she could get pregnant from me rubbing her clitoris with my finger that could have had some precum on them. I did not however insert my finger inside her hole and have not done so ever. Hoping for your prompt response. Thank you:)

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Heather
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Welcome to the boards, jparanoid. [Smile]

Have you started by looking at one of our pages like this one to assess this risk yourself?

Can I Get Pregnant, or Get or Pass On an STI From That?

If not, why don't you check that out first. If you have, since that answers this question just like we would here, perhaps you can let us know what's still missing for you with this?

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Here's an article about the risks of pregnancy/STI transmission of various sexual activities, including manual sex: Can I Get Pregnant, or Get or Pass On an STI From That? It may be a good idea to take a look through this, possibly with your partner, before the two of you are sexual again so you can be on the same page about what you're willing to do together and the risks, or lack thereof, of those activities.

If you have questions after reading that article, come on back and we can try to clarify things. =)

[ 06-03-2013, 07:02 PM: Message edited by: Molias ]

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Yes I have certainly read that, as well as the article on Pregnancy Scared? However, my concern is would this be counted as vaginal fluid sharing?
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Actually, my partner and I have talked about sexual activities already and we decided to refrain from doing them until the time that we can be fully responsible for our own actions. I am just worried about this recent incident. Actually, my girlfriend isn't even thinking about it, I just can't get it off my mind whether or not I got her pregnant
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It counts as manual sex: it's not tasting or ingesting vaginal fluids (which isn't an issue with causing pregnancy, regardless).

For sure, it's a much better idea to wash your hands before touching someone's genitals, but that's most about germs and infections, not about pregnancy.

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Okay. Thank you heather. So therefore I should not worry about this because without ejaculation, direct penetration, and direct genital contact of any kind it's just now how someone gets pregnant right?
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Oh and lastly, when you say that manual sex does not pose any risk, this also takes into account situations where someone would have precum on their fingers while having manual sex?
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Yep to both your responses. [Smile]

Like I said, I personally suggest washing your hands before touching people's genitals, just like you wash your hands before eating. It helps spare your partner from bacterial infections and UITs, and in my book, it's just plain old basic good manners.

But babies from this is something you can check off your list of worries. [Smile]

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I actually do wash my hands before touching someone elses genitals. during this time i touched her clitoris then i unzipped my pants. at that process, i did not know if any precum got on my hands then i rubbed her clitoris again. haha. thank you though for your time and patience with my paranoia:)
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Just a last follow up question, regarding pregnancy risks, in my situation, even if I inserted my finger, which probably had a bit of precum, in her vagina that still would not create a pregnancy right? Because in order for there to be a pregnancy, there needs to be direct genital to genital contact, direct semen contact on a vulva (ejaculating straight on a vulva), and actually having sex right?
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That's correct. Any of those three scenarios can potentially lead to Pregnancy. Fingering cannot.

Just to be clear: all sexual activities are sex. When you say "having sex" I think you're referring to intercourse, which is just one of many sexual activities.

[ 06-04-2013, 06:55 AM: Message edited by: Robin Lee ]

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Thank you very much:) Your credible answers have made me feel a lot better:) Due to my lack of sexual education, i was really worried that a scenario like that could lead to me getting my girlfriend pregnant but now i know that it can't:)
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Sorry to post here again, but when do pregnancy symptoms usually start? My gf's period is suppose to start this coming sunday and this week she has been complaining about her breasts become larger and hurting a bit. Aside from this, just today she complained of having lower back pain, but i'm not sure if it's a pregnancy symptom or because of her workout at the gym. Since what we did was not an activity that can cause a pregnancy, I should not worry right? Just a last bit of information, the incident occurred on May 24, so it's been almost 2 weeks since then
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Cause as was mentioned above my situation only involves the possibility of having precum on my hands and stimulating her clitoris. I did not put my finger inside her vaginal hole, there was no direct genital to genital contact, nor was there any direct ejaculation from the penis to the vulva...
I'm really sorry for continually repeating what i post. I just feel so guilty about what i did.

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So, instead of talking about something that, according to the facts you've already learned from the information we've provided you, just isn't a possibility, how about we talk about these guilty feelings you're having? Have you shared with your girlfriend that you're feeling guilty? What kinds of things usually help you when you feel upset or guilty about other things?

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Yes i have and we decided that we should fight the temptation to do so. Usually during these circumstances to stop feeling guilty and upset, I seek reassurance from my friends regarding what I did. As of now, my guilt has lowered a bit, but I just can't seem to get off my mind that I potentially greatly affected the lives of two families:(
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You know, I think that you're escalating this to something that isn't sound or reasonable.

For sure, it sounds like you're not feeling good about your choices here. And only you can know why that is. Taking responsibility is great, but we want to make sure we're not taking responsibility for things we're not actually responsible for.

I'd try and ground evaluating your feelings about this in reality, and that reality didn't include taking any risk of pregnancy, nor anything that sounds like it probably has, or would have had, any impact on anyone besides the two of you.

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