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Anieke5656
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Hello! So, I have been sexually active for less than a year, and I have recently become intimate with my new boyfriend. I have been on Beyaz since late October, taking it the same time and being very vigilant with it (just by the way). Initially, insertion was extremely painful near the caliber of pain to losing my virginity, which was too painful to even have full insertion. (Note: I've been with two previous partners multiple times, each time initial insertion is rather painful as are certain positions). After a little bit, it was all right.

Is there anything I can do about this? It's not the fact there isn't enough lubrication, because I don't have issues with that thanks to personal lubricant. Thank you in advance!

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Robin Lee
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Hi Anieke5656,

Since this is something that tends to happen for you with new partners, I'm wondering if you think you feel nervous or stressed about the first time having intercourse with a new person? Any sort of nervousness or stress can lead to muscle tension which can affect the pelvic muscles, making penetration difficult, painful, or both.



I was going to suggest a good water-based lubricant, but since you're already using something, too much friction likely isn't the issue here.

There are several ideas and things to consider in these two articles. I'd suggest taking a look and seeing if anything jumps out at you as something that you have or haven't been doing.

Once you do that, we'll have a place to start with trying to figure this out.

From OW! to WOW! Demystifying Painful Intercourse

Yield for Pleasure

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Anieke5656
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Well, generally it takes me a bit to be comfortable enough and I've never felt nervous.

And thank you for the articles! Upon reading them, we have good communication during sex and I feel incredibly comfortable with him in telling him if I don't like or enjoy something. So I'm thinking maybe it may just be a medical thing? I don't know.

All I know is that I don't want to be having to worry about pain every time I have sex, haha.

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In the past, how long has it taken before the penetration has stopped being painful?

In terms of a medical problem, have you had a gynecological exam before?

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It takes maybe a couple minutes or so, I guess until it stretches a little. And, yes I have. When I went to get birth control I had already had sex, and she did a pelvic exam as well as a test called "Chlamydia/GC Amplification" according to my receipt stub. It came back negative. I turn 21 in September, so I'm assuming then is when I schedule a pap smear.
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