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Hey guys!

I had a question about this new relationship that I'm in. I began dating this guy two months ago, after getting out of a long-term relationship four months ago. We recently made it official and are now dating exclusively as boyfriend and girlfriend.

I like this guy and I am very happy with him. The only thing is, I still find it weird to call him my boyfriend. When I refer to Austin (my boyfriend), I have a hard time actually saying that he's my boyfriend. I tend to just stick to calling him by his name.

Is this something I should be concerned about? I have very limited experience in dating (my past long-term relationship was the only other real relationship I've ever had), so I don't know how the "dating after your first love" process actually works. I'm so used to feeling completely and utterly "in love" with someone that this slower progression with Austin feels unusual.

Am I doing something wrong? Am I even ready to be in a relationship if it's weird for me to call Austin my boyfriend? I don't really want to just end things with Austin because I really do like him and I want us to get to know each other more. But I also don't want to make any mistakes or hurt anyone.

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You know, I don't think we can generalize things like this or analyze them in the way that you're asking.

Some people in relationships of all sorts may never be comfortable with terms like boyfriend/girlfriend. Others could care less. They also don't mean the same things to everyone.

So, really, I think the way to approach this question is this: do YOU think this signifies some kind of problem or issue? Does something feel wrong with/in this relationship to you?

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