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saphira2013
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Hey, I'm just wondering what is the likelihood of pregnancy if a condom is properly used during sex , but the hands with which it was put on have had precum on them?

Thank you!

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That's not a factor in perfect use, what is or isn't on someone's hands.

You can find out what IS included in proper use, and how effective condoms are in both perfect and typical use, through this very comprehensive page on condoms here on the website. [Smile]

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Thank you for your answer Heather [Smile]
Yes, I've gone through all your articles, and they're really great. It's just that right now I'm dealing with massive amounts of stress [thesis deadline in a week, finals in a month], and any additional worry is likely to drive me insane haha.
I read a lot of other people's similar questions too - but the fact we're talking about direct genital to genital contact, even though a condom was used - scared me, because after all, there's no guarantee that the precum did not have sperm on it. Especially because I'd given him an handjob and unthinkingly then put his condom on with the same hand before having sex. And since it's 4 days before my ovulation, understandably, I panicked.

I'm sorry for being an emotional mess, but I needed someone to tell me I'm being unreasonable.... Am I?! *bangs head on desk in frustration*

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You are, because this isn't how pregnancy happens.

Condom instructions are pretty explicit, and while washing hands before or between genital contact is a good idea from a germ standpoint, you'll note that condom instructions don't say anything about washing hands first. That's because, from a contraception standpoint, they really don't need to.

We know that with *intercourse* when someone's penis is inside someone's vagina, sans condom, or any other method of contraception, and they pre-ejaculate that can pose a risk of pregnancy -- one estimated at around 4% in one year of doing that. Not one time: one YEAR. But that's intercourse, which is a whole different ball game. (No pun intended, I swear.)

It sounds like you also already know that what's driving this car is stress from having way too much on your plate at one time. So, moving forward, it might be helpful for you to remember that while, in some ways, sex can be something that relieves stress for us, it also brings its own stresses to the table. It may be that you're finding out that when you're at wit's end, sex perhaps isn't the thing to add, you know?

[ 04-17-2013, 11:10 AM: Message edited by: Heather ]

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You couldn't hit the nail more on the head. I've been shaking my head at my idiocy all day long. The only way I can survive the coming months is by lessening stressors - i.e. cutting out all potential worry factors, this being one of them.

And thank you. Really, really, really, thank you. I had no clue that the condom instructions don't specify that - what a load off my shoulders. Obviously I'll be more careful in the future, but for the time being I can relax and get back to writing at least.

Just wanted to add that it's a wonderful thing you're doing for people here on this site!! [Smile]

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You know, this really is the kind of thing we generally can only figure out as we go.

And you're so welcome! [Smile]

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