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aarthi
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Hi Scarleteen,

This is not a routine pregnancy question...its just a small rather concern I have and I want to know whether this is something that needs to be looked into....

Well, my husband and I, let me put it this way....its not that we are trying desperately for a baby...but we are also okay if it happens....And I know for pregnancy to happen, it is impt that the man ejaculates inside the vagina.....Yes, pre ejaculation I know causes pregnancy too but there have been articles even in your website that if the man has previously urinated there are very less chances that pre ejaculate can cause a pregnancy...

For ex. yesterday....We had a little bit of foreplay and both of us were excited at the same time...thats all well....And then we had intercourse...I achieved an orgasm....a really good one in probably minutes.....This orgasm lets say lasted 15-20 secs.....and then he pulled out.....and he was still excited and still had an erect.....you know what I mean....

He told me his ***** was still dry and so he said no ejaculation has gone into me.....I was not so sure but when he then actually excited himself and ejaculated and his ***** was covered with liquid that I realized thats when he actually ejaculated...but all this ejaculation happened outside because since I had already achieved an orgasm I had no more pleasure in him being inside me....

This situation I know actually has not a zero pregnancy possibility but its still minimal considering that the enire "ejaculation" happened outside...and he having urinated before actually lowers the chances even more...

But what I am asking is...is this normal? or is it something to worry abt? The fact that I reach orgasm fairly quick but his excitment lasts longer...and after an orgasm I don't feel the same pleasure in him still being inside me...

Is this a problem with him? or me? or its just a passing one in a while situation

thanks a lot for ur help

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How long it takes someone to orgasm (or whether one orgasms at all) with any given sexual encounter varies a lot from person to person and from situation to situation.

So, no: there is nothing at all wierd about you climaxing before your partner.

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aarthi
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Yes I agree but won't this dent my chances of getting pregnant when I really want to get pregnant? Because from what I read it is very IMPORTANT that ejaculation takes place for pregnancy to occur
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Just for the record, as we make clear in the user agreement you agreed to when registering for the boards, trying to conceive is actually one of the areas we don't serve here.

That said, I don't hear you reporting that your partner has had a long pattern of being unable to ejaculate. In fact, I don't even hear that it was an issue this once: I just hear that this particular time, he didn't ejaculate during intercourse, but did afterwards. I also hear you reached orgasm more quickly than he did this time.

None of this suggests any kind of problem with him, nor you, not does it suggest you'll somehow have issues if and when you two are trying to conceive.

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