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Hey guys!

So I recently ended my four-year relationship, about a month ago. About three weeks after it ended, one of my new guy friends that I had a slight crush on asked me out. I decided to take a chance so I said yes. We are having a really nice time going on very easy, simple dates, like taking walks and whatnot. However, the other night, things got really heated really quickly and we ended up getting sexual with each other. We did not have sex, but there was definitely some heavy petting and touching going on.
I like this guy quite a lot and I'm scared that we have taken this too fast, especially since I just got out of a long relationship. Is it possible for us to slow things down and keep dating one another? Or have I already messed this up completely?

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Yes, you absolutely can slow this down. You can't undo what happened, but you are in complete control of how fast or slow things will go from here on out.

I'll link you to some articles we have on talking to partners and on working out issues of pacing, alright?

Whoa, There! How to Slow Down When You're Moving Too Fast
Be a Blabbermouth! The Whats, Whys and Hows of Talking About Sex With a Partner

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