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melissa9955
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Hi,

My Boyfriend and I are very close and have had sex many times using a condom with no problems. About three weeks ago we had our first (and hopefully only problem).

Basically we had sex and he pulled out right after he came (as always). He hadn't fully lost his erection yet so the condom it didn't slip or anything. We also did the test where you fill the condom up with water and there weren't any holes or slits. The condom fit him well and we left enough space at the top and used it correctly, but we noticed a lot of fluid around his penis. None of his cum that we saw made it past an inch from the top of the condom. I know that it could have been from me because I was sitting on top of him before we actually had sex and that it was probably mixed with the lubrication from the condom (one we hadn't used before), but I'm still scared that it was from him and that I might be pregnant.

My period never comes on the exact same day every month, but usually it comes within the first 3 days of the month. Today is the 1st so it should be coming any day now, but I'm just really worried that it won't. Then again, if I get it I'm sure it will be late because I'm so stressed out about it.

Can you please tell me how likely you think it is that I'm pregnant?

The other question I have is about the pill. Obviously after this I want to go on it, but I'm a very competitive athlete in a sport where my weight needs to always be under 115 pounds and I'm worried that the pill will make me gain too much weight. How much weight do people usually gain when they go on the pill?


I know you're all very busy, but please get back to me as soon as possible I'm really really scared.

Thanks.

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Heather
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You know, there's really no need to fill condoms with water after using them. I suspect the idea that's necessary is based ion fears generated by abstinence-only propaganda which makes false claims like that condoms have "microscopic holes" in them you can't see with your eyes.

The fact is, when a condom rips or breaks, it's usually quite obvious, just like when a balloon does.

I hear you saying you used the condom for all genital contact, from start to finish, and that it did not slip off, break or tear. I also hear you reporting what sounds like seeing lubricant or your fluids at the base of the condom, which is often going to happen. I don't hear you reporting anything that sounds like a condom failure.

Per the pill, weight gain isn't a typical side effect, especially not a) anything more than temporary gain and b) a temporary gain of more than five pounds. And when that does happen, it's water weight, which your body is likely used to tossing off easily given you being an athlete. In a word, if water bloat during your period is a non-issue, it'd likely be about the same thing with any combined hormonal contraceptive method, like the pill, patch or ring.

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Robin Lee
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HI melissa9955 and welcome to Scarleteen,

When you say that you filled the condom with water to check for leaks, was this before or after you used it?

Since the condom was still on your boyfriend's penis, I'm not hearing anything that says "condom failure".

Here's some more information about condom use that you might find helpful.

Condom Basics: A User's Manual

As to the pill, not all people gain weight when taking it, so it really does depend on how an individual's body reacts to the pill, and even then, different brands will have difffrent side effects for different people. The pill isn't your only birth control option. Would you like to discuss your contraception options in general?

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melissa9955
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Hi,

Thanks for a reply so quickly! We checked afterwards and there was nothing. So you don't think there's a chance I could be pregnant?

and thanks for your advice on the pill. In that case I will totally start taking it.

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Heather
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In terms of concerns about pregnancy, were you able to start by reading through this post at the top of this forum page, and the links within it: http://www.scarleteen.com/forum/ultimatebb.php?/ubb/get_topic/f/27/t/027786.html

As well, you understand that any contraceptive method, including condoms, is as effective as it is, yes? None are 100% effective (condoms, particularly, are 98% effective in perfect use over one year of use, and around 85% effective in typical use in one year), so anytime people have engaged in the kind of sex that can potentially create a pregnancy, even with reliable contraception use, we can never tell them there has been no risk, because that will never be true.

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Ok thanks! I've read everything and I'm starting to feel a little bit better. [Smile]
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[Smile]

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