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MaddleyLove
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Hi! [Smile]

I have a question about an activity me and my boyfriend engaged in two days ago. [Smile]

we participated in mutual masturbation, and I got off first. I then proceeded to give him a handjob with him laying on the bed and me kneeling by his side. there was no genital contact, they were at least a ruler's width apart at all times [Razz]
when he told me he was about to come, i prepared by stopping the motion. out the corner of my eye, i saw a spurt of come shoot out, only a little bit,which went in the opposite direction before the rest came out on his chest (i put his penis in the direction if his chest).
however, i am concerned that perhaps this bit of come which came out before the main ejaculation could have got on me somehow, even though our genitals never met and i didn't feel it at all. i looked down at my vagina after he had finished, and could not see any come on me, and i think i felt abit of come on his leg, so maybe that's where it landed...
now, common sense tells me that his penis would have to be basically pointing at my vulval area for any come to get on me, but i am still abit worried about this :/
any advice? [Smile]

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Heather
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Hey, MaddleyLove, welcome to the boards. [Smile]

I'm not sure what you're asking for here, can you give me a little more of a clue?

If you're asking for information about a possible pregnancy risk, can you go through this post first, please?

http://www.scarleteen.com/forum/ultimatebb.php?/ubb/get_topic/f/27/t/027495.html

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MaddleyLove
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Hi Heather [Smile]
just had a look at that article, I found it quite clarifying, so thanks [Smile]

yes, I was asking about a risk of pregnancy [Smile] I guess I just have this silly image in my head that semen has some kind of magnetic attraction to a vagina, and is just automatically going to head there, even if ejaculation happens away from my body [Razz] silly, I know, buut... [Razz]

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Alas, all the laws of physics apply the same to semen as they do to everything else on the planet. [Big Grin]

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haha [Razz] I suppose they do [Razz]

so, unless a penis is pointed right at my vulva it really doesn't make sense to be concerned? would I have noticed it if he had ejaculated on me? like I said, we were noticeably apart during said ejaculation [Smile]

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Heather
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Like that link explained, possible pregnancy risks are posed when EITHER there is direct contact between a penis and a vulva, and/or a person with a penis is ejaculating unto or inside of your genitals.

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aaah so DIRECT,FULL ejaculation DIRECTLY DIRECT,INTENTIONALLY onto a vulva is what poses a risk. [Smile]

no need to panic then [Big Grin]

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Well, yes and no.

Direct genital-to-genital contact even without a full ejaculation can still pose pregnancy risks, but they tend to be small.

But that's not what happened here, regardless. You had NEITHER direct genital-to-genital contact NOR any genital contact with semen.

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so you think I would have seen any semen on me, given the fact his penis was not near my vulva?
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Like we've already discussed, it can't go places on its own or defy the laws of physics.

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okay then [Big Grin]
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Hey Maddley, we can't tell you what even you didn't see.

The best information on that is what you remember, if you didn't see it, didn't feel it, and you DID see it all go in a different direction, then I think there's enough there for you to conclude that there was no risk. It's what I'd conclude and support anyone else in making that assumption.

Maybe next time you could consider a posh wank? i.e. All the same fun but with a condom?

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haha, posh wank i love that description [Razz]

yea, the main ejac went on his chest, its just this one little bit i saw come out like a split second before when his penis wasnt quite pointing at his chest, pretty sure it was upright tho, defo not pointing at me [Razz]

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Maddley- as far as noticing if some ejaculate had gotten on you- imagine dropping, say, a blob of jam off your toast onto your leg. You might feel it land there, or maybe not, but you'll probably either notice it at some point (since it's wet and sticky) or just end up rinsing it off in the shower. If you're performing manual sex with him lying on his back, it's unlikely it would end up anywhere on you but your arm/hand (and you'd probably see it).
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