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mj44
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i masturbate once in 3-4 days(or sumtimes 1 in a week)....though this seems normal..
but once i get an urge to see it ..its impossible to control and i can almost nvr resist.
is this a start of porn addiction and am i likely to be a addict in future??
if yes how do i control it?

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Robin Lee
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Hi mj44,

Do you feel like it's interfering with your life? That is, is your desire to see porn interfering with work, school, or relationships?

My answer to your other post might also help you with this.

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mj44
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not at college....maybe thats bcoz i knw its impossible to do anythn there..
as i said its just 1-2 times a week
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but its like if i knw i m gonna be home...all alone @ a particular time.however hard i decide not seeing anythn..i end up seeing .
WHY CANT I CONTROL?
AND IF OTHERS CAN CONTROL ... HOW CAN I TOO?

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Robin Lee
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HI There,

Can you tell me why you feel like you want to be able to control this? Do you feel out of control?

What I hear you saying is that when you don't have anything to do, and you're feeling sexually aroused, sometimes you feel a strong urge to watch porn. I'm not hearing anything here that is harming anyone, including yourself, so maybe you can tell me some more about what you think is bad about this? [Smile]

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mj44
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yes is not hurting anybody..
and maybe i shud stop thinking so much abt this bcoz its normal and happens to everybody ..rite??
thank u;-)

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Heather
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Not everyone uses pornography, but that doesn't mean it's not okay for people who want to to do so. And most people do masturbate, but even if they didn't? It'd still be okay.

The okay-ness of masturbation really is about the individual. Does it feel okay to you? Does it fit with your values and your life? Does it enhance your life rather than making it harder? If you're answering yes to questions like that, it sounds like it's okay for you.

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mj44
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jerking off doesnt serve as any use and i see it as a waste of time.....
i generly try to restrict it to 1 ce a week but it rarely happens dat way..
as robin pointed , it doesnt hurt me or anybody else .the reason i posted it here is bcoz i thnk its my lack of self control
and if i m okk with it...NO

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Generally people think of jerking off as something that serves the purpose of pleasure, hence why it's often called self-pleasuring. It sounds like you think it should serve more use than that. IN general, do you think it's okay for you to experience pleasure that doesn't have any other purpose? Do, you, for example, only eat things for the purpose of nourishing you, or do you eat some things more for the purpose of the pleasure eating them gives you? There's no right answer here; just trying to see what your experiences have been.

If it's helpful to know this, there are benefits to sexual activity.

These two pieces talk more about that.

http://www.scarleteen.com/article/advice/is_masturbation_healthy

http://www.scarleteen.com/article/advice/what_are_some_of_the_benefits_of_having_sex

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mj44
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o_O nvr knew that the 10mL comin out had so many advantages :-P :-P

and as u said its a self pleasuring activity.... i ll restrict it to that without involving it much with my life..

now recently i read sumthng prone masturbation ..
i realised i practise it sumtimes .....i searched more on it :- some sites report it as deadly while others call it harmless..ur thoughts .....??

thanx for rplyin so fast...this is my final qs b4 i stop bugging u all :-D :-P

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Heather
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Anyone reporting a various position for masturbation as "deadly" is someone you can know doesn't have credibility.

Unless we're talking about the safety of say, masturbating with objects which can't be cleaned, or which can cause injury, like by too much suction or by cutting the genitals, you can safely assume that however you prefer to masturbate is just fine.

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