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justbreathe
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Hello,

Tonight I was licking my boyfriend's penis.
This is our first relationship. Protection was not used.
Should a condom be used in this case, even in oral sex?

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Robin Lee
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Hi justbreathe,


By your first relationship, I think you mean that neither of you has had any sexual contact with any other person prior to getting together.

In this case, there are few STI transmission risks.

This article explains what risks there can be without having had previous sexual contact.
Without sexual contact, could I have an STI?

I don't know how long you've known your boyfriend, and I'm not suggesting that anyone is lying here, but when it comes to STIs it's sound to be cautious. It's a good time for both of you to get tested so you have a benchmark to work with.

Since you are now sexually active, it's a good time for you to start getting your sexual healthcare anyway. If you need help finding a doctor or clinic, we can help you with that.

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Yes, the Robin that was what I meant.
I'll review that article.

It would be great to getting that care as well.
Again, I'm not really sure where to start so it would be great to get some direction.
I'm from Ontario, Canada. Would testing be covered?
Thanks!

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Hi justbreathe,

I live in Ontario and testing is covered. If you don't have, or aren't comfortable going to your GP or gynaecologist, most walk-in clinics or public health centres do free testing. From my experience, the clinics/centres will usually allot a specific day of the week where STD testing is their focus so you might want to do some research about clinics in your area.

I hope this information is helpful!

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Thanks for the helpful information, Smarties. Just a reminder that questions in this forum (and Emergencies & Crises) are for staff and volunteer responses only. Input in all other forums is welcomed...and encouraged. [Smile]

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Hi JustBreathe,

As Smarties said, you can go to your GP or gynecologist, but if you're not comfortable with that, there are clinics where you can get testing done.

If you need any help finding clinics in your area, just let us know, you can either post your postal code here or, if you'd prefer more privacy, send it to robin@scarleteen.com

It's a good idea for your boyfriend to get tested to, so you both have a benchmark to work from. How do you feel about talking to your boyfriend about getting tested?

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My apologies! I clicked on the topic from the homepage and didn't realize what forum I was in. Thanks for letting me know!
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Thanks everyone!
Robin: I've sent you an email.
As for talking about testing (I brought it up last night with regards to our other conversation about next steps (from the thread earlier in the week with the scare). He thinks it would be okay he's just concerned about cost and where to get it done.

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Robin, thanks for the information in the email!
Is there any benefits/ drawbacks to going to your Doctor, a clinic or a gynaecologist? How would someone go about getting a gynaecologist? What do they do as their job as opposed to a Doctor?

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HI There,

No matter what healthcare provider you see--your general practitioner, gynecologist or providers at a sexual health clinic--you'll get the same basic medical treatment in terms of tests and examinations. Going to a sexual health clinic means that you'll be talking to healthcare professionals who specialize in sexual health care, but that doesn't necessarily mean you won't get the same level of care from a GP or gynecologist.

You can receive gynecological care from a GP, though again, some people prefer or find they need to see a gynecologist because gynecologists specialize specifically in reproductive and sexual health care.

To see a gynecologist you would, based on the requirements of the health system where you live, need to get a referral from your GP.

Here's the lowdown on visiting a gynecologist.

Your First Gynecologist Visit

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Thanks so much! [Smile]
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You're welcome. [Smile]

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