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My best friend/roommate is in her first sexual relationship (we are in college). Her boyfriend has had several sexual partners. She recently told me that he convinced her to stop using condoms after she had been on the pill for a month, because he does not like them, even though she does. She did some "research" online and said that because she uses the pill and he pulls out every time, there is practically no chance of pregnancy. I am super worried about her, not online because of the pregnancy risk but because he has cheated on her before and there is a risk for stds. I know it her body and her choice, but is she really as safe as she says she is? What kind of risks is she taking?
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Well, she's taking high risks of STIs. If they use both a combined birth control pill and withdrawal properly, then her risks of pregnancy are very low.

Of course, I'd also say that she's taking a risk of a sexual relationship where what both people want and feel comfortable with isn't being made as important as it is. In other words, she's risking -- if not already in -- a sexual relationship or interaction where she's deciding to care less about her life and health than about what her boyfriend wants, and for something as easy for him to use as a condom. And that's never a good thing.

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