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docaholic
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Hey,

I recently just had sex for the first time, and I'm bit freaked out my girlfriend is pregnant.

We used a condom, and there wasn't any breakage, and from the best of my knowledge, no leakage as well...in fact, when i withdrew, i took the condom off near the trash, and you could see the tip of the condom filled with semen. For some reason, I'm still freaking out that the condom didn't work (as I've read that typical failure rates for a condom are about 18%).

I know I'm trying to be responsible and I really do care about her, and I wouldn't want anything unexpected to happen between us. Am i just freaking out needlessly? Thanks.

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Robin Lee
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HI docaholic
and welcome to Scarleteen,

It might help to know that condoms don't leak. When they break, they do so in a noticeable way, by splitting or shredding.

The success rates of any birth control method are measured in terms of how effective they were in one year of use. So, in one year, a typical condom user might forget to use condoms sometimes, not use them properly sometimes, have a condom break, or some other combination of events.

what you're describing is effective condom use.whenever there is sexual activity that could lead to pregnancy, there is a risk of pregnancy, regardless of the contraception used. However, again, what you describe is effective condom use.

You might find it helpful to take a look at this article, to assure yourself that you did use the condom correctly.




Condom Basics: A User's Manual

Is this helpful at all?

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Robin

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docaholic
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Hi Robin,

Yeah that helps a lot...I was quite anxious and stressing out because I was worrying about it.

It's good to have some reassurance that I did use them correctly.

Thanks a lot!

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Robin Lee
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You're most welcome.

Often people feel more secure when they're using two birth control methods. Do you think you would find this helpful?

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