Me and my boyfriend were fooling around and I ended up without any clothes on and he with just his briefs on. He was wet with pre-ejaculate and we were just rubbing against each other occasionally (he had his briefs on) and pressing our private areas against one another. He had quite a lot of precum I noticed, but I am positive that he had not ejaculated before that- so that his precum did not contain trace sperm from past ejaculation.
What are the chances of pregnancy may I ask? Are they as impossible as I think they are?
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Well, emotions don't change those facts. And whether we worry or not doesn't create or reduce risks.
Some people worry in these situations, others don't, and all for a range of reasons, from lack of education and facts to know if there's a risk, to guilt or shame about engaging in sexual activity, to crummy relationships, etc.
But if YOU are still worried, we can certainly talk more about that. After all, it's your feelings and fears you're posting about here, you know?
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According to fact it's quite impossible am I correct? I am angry at myself because I spend time worrying over something that is completely unrealistic.
I just want to know if any of you were in my shoes, would it be worth worrying over?
As the incident happened two weeks ago I took a HPT yesterday and the answer came back negative. My period can vary between being a week early and a week late, so I think it's safe to say that it was alright that I took one.
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Since you took the pregnancy test two weeks after the incident, you can trust the results. And there's no need to be angry with yourself -- you weren't aware. It's quite understandable to be worried when you're not sure of the facts. So try not to be angry with yourself -- just know that, for the future, you don't have to worry in situations like this because you now know the facts! Posts: 1121 | From: Ontario, Canada | Registered: Dec 2008
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Hi ana. You should know, having read the articles that robin linked you to, whether your situation posed a risk of pregnancy or not. They also cover whether pre-cum can cause a pregnancy risk without the other factors you mentioned.
There really is nothing else we can tell you about this -- you have all the information you need, and our answer isn't going to suddenly change.
Are you feeling a lot of anxiety around this? If you are, we can talk about that if you'd like.
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I do feel anxiety around the subject. And your articles state that only when ejaculation occurs on or in a vulva is there a risk. Would I be correct in saying that there is absolutely no risk since he did not ejaculate and his precum would not contain sperm due to him not ejaculating any time before that?
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Yes, you're correct -- and the fact that he had a layer of clothing on also makes the risk of pregnancy non-existent here.
Are risks of pregnancy the only times you have anxiety like this, or do you get levels of fear like this around anything else in life as well? Do you feel it with regards to anything else relating to sexuality? What do you think about possibly getting some in-person help with this, like a counsellor? A lot of people have anxiety around sexuality, and a counsellor would be able to help you work through it and learn how to cope with your anxiety and get to the bottom of it so that you no longer get this worried about things like that. Do you think counselling might be a good option for you?
Also, you might want to consider taking a step back from any kind of sexual activity that triggers anxiety like this for now, until you work out where this is coming from and how you can cope with it so that you don't find yourself constantly worrying about non-risks like this -- it could help with your peace of mind and stress levels. What do you think? Do you think that would help for now?
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I am worried because he produced quite a bit of it (precum), and I could feel the wetness coming through on his briefs.
I have got an anxiety disorder. So yes, it affects quite a lot of things in my life. My mind seems to be able to take really small and stupid things and blow them up until they're the size of mountains.
We don't really have counselors in South Africa? It sounds quite strange but we have psychologists and psychiatrists and to go to them it's quite expensive. Since I am a student at University I won't be able to afford it.
I am going to do that. I really cannot deal with the amount of stress I go through when it comes to this.
Basically I came to this site for a black and white answer with no bits of grey in between. Either yes there is a risk or no there isn't. You gave me that answer. Thanks Onionpie
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It doesn't matter that you could feel the wetness through the briefs -- a lot more than that is required to make pregnancy a possibility. As is explained in the "where DID I come from?" article, there actually needs to be a whole lot of sperm, AND enough of the seminal fluids, to potentially co-create a pregnancy. Which is why we say that a layer of clothing in between means pregnancy is not an option. So there's no need to worry
Have you ever had any kind of treatment for your anxiety disorder? Any behavioural/talk therapy or medication? How was your anxiety disorder diagnosed?
Does your university health centre have any kind of mental health facilities that provide psychologists for students? Or any kind of health coverage to help reduce costs of psychologists/psychiatrists for the students?
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It was diagnosed when I started having panic attacks. There are certain things that trigger my anxiety and I'm guessing this is one of them. I am pretty much always on mild tranquilizers to keep my anxiety at bay.
I guess in my mind I have the constant "what if" playing over and over. It would terrify me to know if there is a chance.
But it is SUCH A RELIEF to know that it's impossible!
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Which doctor prescribes you your anti-anxiety meds? You could talk to them about this more extreme anxiety you're having, and they will be able to help you -- they may prescribe a different anti-anxiety, or up your dosage, or refer you to a psychologist.
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So I took a second pregnancy test today, and it came out negative again. This is now 17 days after the incident took place. Is it safe to say that this is an accurate and trustworthy result?
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My period is due sometime between 21-28 days. The time I took the test was on day 24. So even though it may be early, it was still more than two weeks after the incident.
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