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Okay this is pretty simple:

I have no problem reaching orgasm from intercourse, but when i do i cant feel the contractions! I mean, i can DEFINETLY tell that i came but it doesnt feel the same as if i was masturbating or something. When i masturbate i feel contractions in my vagina, but if i have a penis inside its just..different.. i dont know if it is because its a weaker orgasm or what... i mean my boyfriend cant even tell that i came unless i tell him. i thought men were supposed to feel you cum, dont they? im also not saying that it´s not satisfying, its just that it doesn feel as strong. like having the penis inside would make the walls of my vagina unable to contract that hard because they have a foreign body inside.. does that make any sense? do i need any more foreplay to have a stronger orgasm? or is that ok? is it how it is supposed to feel??

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There's really no "supposed to" when it comes to sexuality. Every body is different, responds differently to different things, and in different situations, so talking about what "should" happen isn't really all that helpful.

What I'm hearing you describe is something that happens to a lot of people, no matter what kind of body they have: orgasms that happen from different kinds of stimulation feel different. Orgasms can vary for all sorts of other reasons, too, but what you're experiencing isn't anything unusual, and there's nothing wrong with you. (For the record, having something inside the vagina doesn't mean the muscles can't contract. Just like you can squeeze your hand shut when it's empty as well as when you're holding something, the muscles around the vagina can contract no matter what, but just like your hand feels different in those two scenarios, so will the vagina. For you, that might mean that those contractions aren't as obvious, but again, there's nothing wrong with that.)

Bottom line? If you're enjoying yourself, you're all good. [Smile]

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