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I have a new question.
I am a virgin but still very sexual with my boyfriend. Recently, I've been curious about hymens, or "having your cherry popped"
Literally, until a few days ago, i figured the hymen was deep inside of you because it never had "popped" for me. my mind was blown when i actually used freaking google and realized it's at the opening. so dumb. *face palm*
but I cannot for the life of me tell if i have mine still, or if it's ripped or not or whatever. I've looked at pictures (real and cartoons :0) and I've used a mirror and everything. i just seriously can't tell. I've been fingered before with at least 2 fingers, and one time i used a vibrator (kind of just to see if it'd fit, which it did fine but it was tight). when i used the vibrator however, it was not in rough sexual motions, i literally just kind of stuck it in for a while, maybe moved it around a bit, and took it out. nothing felt like it tore. but it was a normal penis size one.
I've never had any bleeding at all except my period, or really any pain besides it being too tight. i can't recall any experience that would even be close to the pain it would be when it tears.
Is it possible is still hasn't torn yet after all that?? Or that I even don't have one? or does it usually take a normal sex session with a large penis to actually tear it?
so embarrassing, but thanks.

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The hymen (we now actually call it the corona) does not tend to tear all at once. It's a very thin, very stretchy membrane, and it tends to wear away over time with menstruation, hormone changes and general activity. For most women, the hymen is already partially or mostly worn away by the time they become sexually active, so there is nothing to tear or hurt. Even if the hymen is still partially intact, vaginal entry shouldn't hurt or bleed: the hymen itself doesn't have any nerve ending.

Here is an article that explains this more in depth:
My Corona: The Anatomy Formerly Known as the Hymen & the Myths That Surround It

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That was a really helpful article, i don't feel so dumb anymore. Thank you!
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