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I have a question about some legal issues. I am a 14 year old girl. My dad has full custody of me. I visit my grandma(my moms mom) very often. I am not allowed to see my mom. I would really like to move in with my grandma, but I don't know how much it will cost legally or even what to do. I would like to move in with my grandma because I love her a lot, she shows me more affection/love than my dad, her spouse(my grandfather) is really old and may pass away in a few years, and I love the atmosphere of where she live and I like the school. In order to live with her I need to have good reasons, but I don't want to have to make my dad look like a bad person. What should I do? Also, how should I tell my dad that I don't like living with him and want to move out? Maybe you guys can't answer the legal part but could you please help me with advise on telling my dad?
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Robin Lee
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HI thatgirl120,

Being a sexuality and relationship education site, this really isn't our area of expertise.

That said, one tool that can help you figure out the reasons you want to live with your grandma in ways that other people will understand is to make a pros and cons list. This isn't something you'd show to anyone, just something to help you find the words to describe what you want. What I mean is that it would be a list of both the good and bad (or at least neutral) things that make you want to live with your Grandma. So, based on what you've written here, good things would include loving her, liking the school there, and wanting to be there for her. Bad or difficult things would include how to talk to your Dad, not wanting people to think your dad is a bad person, and how it would be arranged legally.

Is there an adult in your life whom you trust that you could maybe talk about this to first before approaching your Dad?


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