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macie18
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My boyfriend and I have sex on the regular, its great.. but theres one position that really hurts for some reason. its somewhat like anal but instead of in the anal its in the back of the vagina. it really hurts in my stomach too. what's going on?
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Robin Lee
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The thing with different positions for intercourse is that they involve different angles. Everyone's body is different, so some positions might have the penis zigging where the vagina would really prefer that it zag.

The fact that this hurts doesn't mean there's anything wrong with you, only that it's not quite right for your body.

You might find this reading material helpful.

Innies & Outies: The Vagina, Clitoris, Uterus and More


From OW! to WOW! Demystifying Painful Intercourse

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Robin

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macie18
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so we have to try different angles?
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Robin Lee
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Nodding. given that bodies are so unique (no one is the same as the next) it can be a bit of a trial and error (and can be a fun trial and error) to experiment and find the positions that give both of you the most pleasure and are the most comfortable to perform.

Are you and your partner comfortable talking with each other about sex and trying tdifferent things?

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shadi DeRohan
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hi there! I'm 25 year old and marrried for an year.... My problem is it hurts everytime we try to have sex and as a result we had to stop coz i cannot bear it.... I still havent experienced what people call a 'mind - blowing ' sex.... Pls help me, i'm so very miserable
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Hi Shadi, can you start a topic of your own so we can address your concerns there? You can do that by clicking on the "New Topic" button at the top right or bottom left of this page.

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macie18
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yes we are, but like you said its been a lot of errors, idk what to do anymore
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Heather
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Not all positions feel good to every person or every pair of people. It's more than okay to have a position, or even more than one, that just doesn't work for you and you just take off the table.

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