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techie
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Background information: I went to a GP, Dr N, about an eating disorder I have. She told me that as I was of a healthy height and weight, I was obviously fine, despite the eating disorder in question being a selective one, rather than a restrictive one that would result in weightloss. I went to a different GP, Dr R, for a second opinion, had a succesful psychiatric referral and am now being treated - though without a technical diagnosis - for my eating disorder, with room to talk about my recovery from previous abuse and self harm. I'm very happy with this situation.

So, now: I had a phone appointment with Dr N to discuss getting the contraceptive implant. The conversation opened with "I hear you got a referal to [psychiatric centre] - I presume this is all over and in the past now and finished."

1) Does a referral for selective eating have anything to do with contraceptive choices?
2) Her presumption irked me. Her own opinion based on my BMI seemed to her to trump the opinion of three other professionals - the GP I got the referral from, the psychiatrist with whom I was initially assessed, and the psychiatrist I now regularly see.

She also was then fishing for more information about it - "No eating disorder diagnosis then? No depression?" It just had a tone of... I don't know. Gossip-seeking. If it was about medication, couldn't she just ask "And are you on any prescribed medications?" rather than asking me about potential mental health diagnoses that have no effect on whether or not the contraceptive implant is suitable for me?

That whole part of the conversation just felt like she was seeking approval that her dismissal of me was the correct thing to do - which it wasn't. I've got to make the appointment to get the implant actually fitted, but I still feel a bit put out by the conversation I just had to have.

Was it actually a required conversation or were my gossipy/self-validation instincts more accurate? It just felt very off. If I'm wrong and she does have to know about my eating habits to diagnose me, that's fine, but it still felt very uncomfortable, so either way I'm not especially happy...

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I agree with you that her initial dismissal of you, and the way she brought this up on the phone now, sound pretty unprofessional.

Is there any particular reason you went back to her for this? It sounds like you got on much better with the second GP you sought out. If you have the option of going to another doctor with this, I would recommend you do so.

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techie
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I didn't have a choice but to go to her for this - she's the Family Planning specialist, so all contraception-related things will have to go through her. She has to fit the implant, too, which I'm not ecstatic about. Glad to know it isn't just be being over-sensitive/persnickety though
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You know that this is something you could get done at a GUM clinic, Brook or Marie Stopes, yes?

In other words, you have more than one option with this care besides your GP.

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True point! I've found a 'contraceptive clinic' near me through here: http://www.fpa.org.uk/finder/
Can I just... go to it? Because as is, with appointment times/the fact that you can only have the implant fitted 5 days of the month, going via the GP involves both Dr N and having to wait until -March-, which isn't particularly ideal.

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Some clinics are walk-in, others need appointments. To find out about whichever one you found through that database, you'll need to call them and ask.

It'd be awesome if we were clinic psychics -- talk abut making our jobs easier! -- but alas, we're not. [Smile]

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Sorry, I guess that was a bit of an obvious question xD I'm bad with clinics, I guess - everything ever I've done has been done via GPs and then referals and taken months and months and such... so alternatives are unfamiliar to me xD
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Heh. No worries, just give them a call and they'll fill you in. [Smile]

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