Hi... As the title says, my boyfriend can't orgasm! Well, he can... but he almost never does. He can last hours in bed, which is great for me, but we almost always finish sex when I'm too tired to keep going, not when we've both had orgasms. He says it's easier for him when he's LESS excited, not more. And actually the few times he has come he's only lasted a few minutes (as opposed to the hours he usually can last)... It seems like, when it comes to his orgasm, it's either "all at once" or "nothing at all". This mostly bothers me because I feel that I get all the fun while he misses out. I know the problem's not me, because he says the same thing has happened to him with other partners. But might there be something I can do to get him to orgasm? I feel selfish!
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You say you feel like you get all the fun: do you mean that while you to are having whatever kind of sex you are, he doesn't appear to be enjoying himself, or has made clear it's not enjoyable for him?
As well, can you talk about why you feel selfish if he IS enjoying himself? Do you think he is only engaging in sex with you FOR you? That there's nothing in it for him?
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