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imaginarylight
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Hello everyone. I'm not being an idiot, I've just seen all different answers and want to know the most likely one. Today my boyfriend and I were dry humping naked (if you'd call it that). We didn't do it for very long and he didn't ejaculate, or even come close to it. We were rubbing against each other with my saliva on his member as lubricant, so I don't know if there was any precome... I just got off my period a couple of days ago. Is it possible to become pregnant this way? Please and thank you
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If you were both naked and there was direct genital contact, it's not dry humping. And yes, that does pose a pregnancy risk. If your partner did not ejaculate, the risk is fairly small, but it's there.

Unprotected genital contact also poses STI risks. Are you two up to date on your STI checks?

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imaginarylight
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Well, we are both 17 and technically virgins. Neither of us have done anything at all with anyone else. But I don't know if that eliminates STI risks.. I don't think he's ever been checked, and neither have I. Is there anything I can do to slim these risks? Thank you very much.
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If neither of you has ever had any sexual contact, then your STI risks are very slim. However, there are STIs that can be transmitted non-sexually, so the risk is never zero. Why don't you two start by getting your first check-up, and then start using condoms consistently for all genital contact? That's the best way to reduce the risk of STI transmission.

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Johanna
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imaginarylight
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Sounds good to me. I know I'm not going to be doing that again without a condom. Lol. That just happened last night, is there anything I can do to slim the risk of pregnancy? And do you know how slim the chance is taking into account that I just got off of my period and the other details I mentioned? Sorry for bombarding you with questions! Thank you!!
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Unless you have been charting your period (checking basal temperature and cervical mucus daily), it's hard to guess where you're at in your menstrual cycle.

What we do know is that you had unprotected genital contact, so we can figure that you've got about the risk of withdrawal, which when practiced perfectly is about 96% effective.

That's a fairly small risk. If you want to do something, you can take EC, but given how low your risk was, EC won't do very much to decrease it further.

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Alright. I guess I'll just have to wait it out, because I highly doubt I can get my hands on an EC. I feel a lot better now, you've been extremely helpful! Thank you very much, I'll let you know how it goes or if I have any more questions. [Smile] Thank you.
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imaginarylight
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Okay, Joey. I know it's a little (okay, extremely) soon, but I need some serious reassurance. I keep seeing pregnancy EVERYWHERE. Even before what happened yesterday. And I mean... EVERYWHERE.

-Yesterday morning I awoke from a dream about my mom dying. And later yesterday I took a nap and dreamt that my cat died. I know it's impossible to rely on dreams, but I've often heard that dreams of death can mean a baby is going to be born.

-Yesterday I was at Walmart with my boyfriend and we passed a mother pushing her baby in a cart. My boyfriend acknowledged them, turned to me and said, "Awwwwww. That baby was just looking at its mother with the happiest face, it was cute." It's not like we've never seen a mother and child in public, I'm sure we've seen a hundred of them while we've been together. So why would he say that now, of all times?

-Earlier today my boyfriend and I were watching TV at his house and there was a pregnant girl on the show we were watching. He made it a point to tell me she was pregnant... ?

-A few minutes ago I was in my kitchen eating and my dad turned on the TV in the living room and it was on the show 16 And Pregnant.

-Also a few minutes ago, my mom walked in the front door and the first thing she said to me was what my aunt is going to name her twins...

-Just now my mom and I were at the Taco Bell drive thru and the girl at the window was pregnant. I didn't notice it; my mom just said, "That girl is pregnant."

I know it seems a little absurd but... Coincidence? Or what? I'm seriously considering asking my boyfriend to buy me an EC tomorrow morning... [Frown]

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So... I was an idiot and did it again, but still, same situation (no penetration or ejaculation) and this time he watched carefully, and we stopped when he said it was starting to feel good. And I know you never replied to my last post, but I am STILL seeing seeing and hearing about pregnancy every time I turn around. Please, I need some reassurance. I'm not supposed to get my period until late September, so waiting is going to be pretty hard.
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While I'm sure you're not an idiot, choosing to do something you know you feel really freaked out about strikes me as a choice not in alignment with what you know you need.

For now, you can't unring a bell. That means, you need to wait this out and just deal with that. It might help, looking at your last post, to choose to filter your media a bit. Otherwise, you can't control what people say, you know? There's pregnancy in the world. You're going to see it and hear about it.

But perhaps our best move here is to talk bout how you can make choices that don't freak you out? What do you think about taking genital sex off the table until this isn't so scary for you?

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Yeah, I'm aware that pregnancy is out there everywhere. I guess I'm only really paying attention to it because I've been thinking about it. It just doesn't help, though, when I'm stressing so hard about it. But I understand.

I know it was a bad choice to do it again, I guess we just got caught up in the moment. And we were quite careful this time anyway. But you're right, it's best to deal with it. And yes, we're going to buy some condoms for now but actual intercourse isn't in the question anyway because I'm pretty sure I have a Bartholin's cyst.

Thank you for your help and understanding

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Hey guys, I got my period. Just thought I'd let you know! Thanks for your help.
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