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SydneyLove122
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so my bf has fingered me and stuff before, but he's never given me an orgasm. i really want one cause i can get one with a vibrator on my own. at least that's what i think is an orgasm.. anyway, how can he give me one without using the vibrator and just his fingers? thanks!
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Why do you not want him to use a vibrator?

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i just think it's weird for him to do it to me. cause it's not like an actual sex vibrator. it's a massage vibrator that i use, which works pretty much the same. it doesn't go inside of me or anything. just on top. and i get orgasms that way
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Most women orgasm from clitoris stimulation, so that is a very common way to use vibrators. Often a "massage" vibrator is the exact same thing as a vibrator in a sex shop, just marketed with a different picture on the box. [Smile]

If you rub your boyfriends dick in the same way he masturbates, why would it be weird for him to treat you the same way YOU masturbate?

If you are still set on him just using his fingers, your best bet is to see if you can get yourself to orgasm with just YOUR fingers, then show him how. You can try rubbing your clit in the same area the vibrator feels good.

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SydneyLove122
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okay. how do i do it myself? i don't think i've felt my g-spot, which is what most of the orgasms come from, right? i wanna be able to orgasm without the vibrator myself
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No, most women orgasm from stimulation of the clitoris. You can try rubbing your clitoris in the same spot you use the vibrator.

When women orgasm from internal stimulation (including the g-spot) it's often from pressure on the internal or external clitoral glans. So you can try to explore around by applying pressure to spots that feel good.

Check out this article to learn more: With Pleasure: A View of Whole Sexual Anatomy for Every Body

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okay thanks!
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