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john needs help
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im 28 and my girlfriend is 27, our relationship is pretty good apart from the sex side,
im gonna be pretty honest and slightly graphic here so here goes,,,,,

i have never had duration issues with previous partners but my current one is causing me stress when it comes to sex,
my partner is a highly sex person and when aroused her vagina constricts by a great deal and it is in my words causing me to finish quicker than i would like, and i mean pretty quickly, she is quickly becomming very frustrated and if the problem isnt resolved soon its gonna be the ruin of our relationship, i have tried creams and stuff but it doesnt seem to help much, is there anything anyone can suggest, pills positions anything, i really like this one and i do not want it to be the cause of our downfall,
please help!!!

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thanks for your advice

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Can I first ask if you are only talking about penis in vagina sex here? There are lots and lots of kinds of sex. Starting with a different kind of sex, manual or oral perhaps, and moving to penis in vagina sex after you're both ready seems like it would be a simple way to make things last longer.

It also sounds like you're putting a lot of blame or pressure on her for this. Remember that every person's body is different in tons of ways and sexual response is one of those. This is just how she responds, sexually, to stimulation. It's not bad or wrong, just different from what you've experienced before. You'll both adapt new ways of making sex work and those ways may not be what you have done before but you may find you like them even more.

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john needs help
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yes its only penis in vagina sex?, everything else takes time and im happy with that its the first one im having current issues with,
i have not put any pressure on her for this just to clear that up, she has stated that her excitement has never cause her previous partners problems before, which again leaves me stuck?

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thanks for your advice

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